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anyone else's addict act like this?
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<blockquote data-quote="elizabrary" data-source="post: 746620" data-attributes="member: 11235"><p>They're completely irrational and they always try to put the blame on anyone but themselves. My daughter will try and bring up something completely off topic just to shift the blame and skew the conversation. Part of it is the drugs/alcohol, part of it is immaturity- wherever they got stuck and started using (in my opinion) and part of it is that it works for them. It takes a ton of energy and focus to maintain your boundaries with these adult children. They know most people don't have the time or interest to engage for very long, so they usually cave and give them their way. They have learned street survival skills- conning, threatening, etc. and it works enough that they get rewarded for it. It is exhausting, which is why I just hang up the phone or walk away when it starts. With my daughter I think some of it is that she is unhappy with her life. Unhappy people treat others poorly. Nothing about this behavior is normal, so accepting it is a big mistake in my opinion. They need to be held to the same standards as any other adult, addict or not. I know how frustrating and infuriating it is. Sending peace your way.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="elizabrary, post: 746620, member: 11235"] They're completely irrational and they always try to put the blame on anyone but themselves. My daughter will try and bring up something completely off topic just to shift the blame and skew the conversation. Part of it is the drugs/alcohol, part of it is immaturity- wherever they got stuck and started using (in my opinion) and part of it is that it works for them. It takes a ton of energy and focus to maintain your boundaries with these adult children. They know most people don't have the time or interest to engage for very long, so they usually cave and give them their way. They have learned street survival skills- conning, threatening, etc. and it works enough that they get rewarded for it. It is exhausting, which is why I just hang up the phone or walk away when it starts. With my daughter I think some of it is that she is unhappy with her life. Unhappy people treat others poorly. Nothing about this behavior is normal, so accepting it is a big mistake in my opinion. They need to be held to the same standards as any other adult, addict or not. I know how frustrating and infuriating it is. Sending peace your way. [/QUOTE]
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