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<blockquote data-quote="RN0441" data-source="post: 739466" data-attributes="member: 15032"><p>Most unfortunately, I have had a lot of experience with rehab and sober living.</p><p></p><p>And my son did well in both for a short time and then would go right back to what he was doing. He wasn't ready to change. We were beyond ready for him to change.</p><p></p><p>Our son always signed a release. He wanted to be close to us but we did not want him close unless he was working on his sobriety. My heart couldn't take it anymore.</p><p></p><p>A good sober living will have a plan for them to WORK and pay for themselves independent from their parents. I do not recall how old your son is.</p><p></p><p>There are a LOT of bad sober livings out there. There is no doubt about that. I agree that there is NO WAY I would contact a friend for him. Normally they are not allowed to talk to or see anyone except for immediate family. I would question everything about him wanting to talk to a friend. I would be suspicious.</p><p></p><p>This is so hard and so awful and I feel so sad for all of us dealing with this. It's hell on earth to me. It really is.</p><p></p><p>I hope that you have supports in place for yourself. You need to set some boundaries and your son desperately needs them also.</p><p></p><p>My son recently told my husband "when mom says something she really sticks to it, no matter what". </p><p></p><p>That is the new me. I had to work <em>very </em>hard to get there. It is not in my nature.</p><p></p><p>Hugs and prayers as you deal with this. It ain't easy.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="RN0441, post: 739466, member: 15032"] Most unfortunately, I have had a lot of experience with rehab and sober living. And my son did well in both for a short time and then would go right back to what he was doing. He wasn't ready to change. We were beyond ready for him to change. Our son always signed a release. He wanted to be close to us but we did not want him close unless he was working on his sobriety. My heart couldn't take it anymore. A good sober living will have a plan for them to WORK and pay for themselves independent from their parents. I do not recall how old your son is. There are a LOT of bad sober livings out there. There is no doubt about that. I agree that there is NO WAY I would contact a friend for him. Normally they are not allowed to talk to or see anyone except for immediate family. I would question everything about him wanting to talk to a friend. I would be suspicious. This is so hard and so awful and I feel so sad for all of us dealing with this. It's hell on earth to me. It really is. I hope that you have supports in place for yourself. You need to set some boundaries and your son desperately needs them also. My son recently told my husband "when mom says something she really sticks to it, no matter what". That is the new me. I had to work [I]very [/I]hard to get there. It is not in my nature. Hugs and prayers as you deal with this. It ain't easy. [/QUOTE]
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