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Anyone turned a child over to the state??
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 731794" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>My first thought is that he is a danger to everyone living there, you and your daughter, maybe pets, anyone. I never did this with a biological child but my husband and I adopted an 11 year old boy who eventually strangled our dogs and we found out he had been molesting our two very young, cherished, sweet adoptees.</p><p></p><p>Watch out for molestation too even if you don't see it like we did not and even if your daughter doesn't bring it up, like our kids did not. They were both too afraid of what he would do I'd they told us.</p><p></p><p>This is what we did when it all blew up. I called CPS and the cops said he couldn't live here anymore. CPS was the far more helpful. They came and took him to a hospital where he was diagnosed with severe reactive attachment disorder, which is a nice way of saying he has psychopathic behavior. We didn't want him home. They put him in Residential and we paid child support. He had Medicaid so the facility cost was covered.</p><p></p><p>The CPS worker actually felt so sorry for us that legally they undid the adoption and we didn't have to keep paying. And CPS was very helpful getting services for the rest of us so we are doing fine 15 years later. The littles are grown and doing very well....one is in law enforcement!</p><p></p><p>We have no contact with this now 27 year old man. All we know, all from FB, is that he is unemployed, married with four kids and was in trouble with the law a few times. Residential treatment obviously didn't fix him ,(I don't know if you anything could have) but the rest of us are doing well. I think we did all we could and the best for everyone.</p><p></p><p>I don't have any answers but I did want to tell you what we did in a similar situation and how it happened.</p><p></p><p>Also, is his biological father available? if so, I'd go to him first even if he isn't the greatest. Your son needs to leave your daughter alone and this won't happen if he lives with her. The gun incident at age two is very frightening.</p><p></p><p>I am very sorry for you and wish you the best in this tough situation.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 731794, member: 1550"] My first thought is that he is a danger to everyone living there, you and your daughter, maybe pets, anyone. I never did this with a biological child but my husband and I adopted an 11 year old boy who eventually strangled our dogs and we found out he had been molesting our two very young, cherished, sweet adoptees. Watch out for molestation too even if you don't see it like we did not and even if your daughter doesn't bring it up, like our kids did not. They were both too afraid of what he would do I'd they told us. This is what we did when it all blew up. I called CPS and the cops said he couldn't live here anymore. CPS was the far more helpful. They came and took him to a hospital where he was diagnosed with severe reactive attachment disorder, which is a nice way of saying he has psychopathic behavior. We didn't want him home. They put him in Residential and we paid child support. He had Medicaid so the facility cost was covered. The CPS worker actually felt so sorry for us that legally they undid the adoption and we didn't have to keep paying. And CPS was very helpful getting services for the rest of us so we are doing fine 15 years later. The littles are grown and doing very well....one is in law enforcement! We have no contact with this now 27 year old man. All we know, all from FB, is that he is unemployed, married with four kids and was in trouble with the law a few times. Residential treatment obviously didn't fix him ,(I don't know if you anything could have) but the rest of us are doing well. I think we did all we could and the best for everyone. I don't have any answers but I did want to tell you what we did in a similar situation and how it happened. Also, is his biological father available? if so, I'd go to him first even if he isn't the greatest. Your son needs to leave your daughter alone and this won't happen if he lives with her. The gun incident at age two is very frightening. I am very sorry for you and wish you the best in this tough situation. [/QUOTE]
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