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ARghhhhh feeling a bit discouraged...
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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 516915" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>Oh TL he sounds just like my difficult child. She has never bought into the fact that she is an addict even with all the losses she has suffered because of it. She also rtionalized that she drank 24/7 when she broke up with the boyfriend. For two tears?????? And what about eh three years before she met him? So they will rationalize anything to continue using. I was thinking about this last night while I was trying to sleep....what better definition of addiction when they want to continue using even with all the problems it causes in their life. And my difficult child has mental health issues too, plenty of them, but from what we both read in the books Addict in the Family and Everything Changes, most addicts do have mental health issues that came first. In all the years of therapy and counseling and medications, my difficult child has never resolved or managed those mental health issues. The only time her life is relatively together is when she is sober. It is very clear to us, very clear, that our difficult child will end up very badly, because we have seen where she has been before and the only reason she is not dead or in jail right now is because we continued to save her.</p><p></p><p>I know you are very discouraged, I am feeling the same way. For my difficult child to go through everything she has and still say she does not feel she is an alcoholic is insane. She has losrt her friends, her school, sveral jobs, her home, her family, and has seen many of her friends die because of this disease, and none of it is enough to convince her. I am afraid she will lose her freedom or her life because she doesn't get it.</p><p></p><p>Your difficult child is not ready to admit her has a problem, either is mine. I know you would stand on your head in the middle of the lake if that's what it took to convince him. My husband told difficult child the other day that she was very wrong about her saying she was not an alcoholic and that she is in complete denial. They think they can continue using....for why? Do they want us to believe that using make sveerythign better? Was living on the beach better? This is insanity, they will not give up the very thing that causes them so much pain.</p><p></p><p>I wish I could fix this for us, I wish we could convince our difficult child's that living this way will only cause more self destruction. It is beyond my comprehension. If something was causing me that much pain I would stop. But that's why they call it addiction.</p><p></p><p>Hugs,</p><p>Nancy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 516915, member: 59"] Oh TL he sounds just like my difficult child. She has never bought into the fact that she is an addict even with all the losses she has suffered because of it. She also rtionalized that she drank 24/7 when she broke up with the boyfriend. For two tears?????? And what about eh three years before she met him? So they will rationalize anything to continue using. I was thinking about this last night while I was trying to sleep....what better definition of addiction when they want to continue using even with all the problems it causes in their life. And my difficult child has mental health issues too, plenty of them, but from what we both read in the books Addict in the Family and Everything Changes, most addicts do have mental health issues that came first. In all the years of therapy and counseling and medications, my difficult child has never resolved or managed those mental health issues. The only time her life is relatively together is when she is sober. It is very clear to us, very clear, that our difficult child will end up very badly, because we have seen where she has been before and the only reason she is not dead or in jail right now is because we continued to save her. I know you are very discouraged, I am feeling the same way. For my difficult child to go through everything she has and still say she does not feel she is an alcoholic is insane. She has losrt her friends, her school, sveral jobs, her home, her family, and has seen many of her friends die because of this disease, and none of it is enough to convince her. I am afraid she will lose her freedom or her life because she doesn't get it. Your difficult child is not ready to admit her has a problem, either is mine. I know you would stand on your head in the middle of the lake if that's what it took to convince him. My husband told difficult child the other day that she was very wrong about her saying she was not an alcoholic and that she is in complete denial. They think they can continue using....for why? Do they want us to believe that using make sveerythign better? Was living on the beach better? This is insanity, they will not give up the very thing that causes them so much pain. I wish I could fix this for us, I wish we could convince our difficult child's that living this way will only cause more self destruction. It is beyond my comprehension. If something was causing me that much pain I would stop. But that's why they call it addiction. Hugs, Nancy [/QUOTE]
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