Well, I guess that no one can claim that he isn't consistent in his selfishness. Typical difficult child stuff to think that their getting drunk is more important that people dying. I'm sure that in his mind he really truly believes that, too.
I'm glad that I didn't freak you out by being so blunt. Not having the denial is a huge step to getting on the right track.
Your answer narrows it down, and I don't need to know the details. I was more asking which state you live in because laws as to parental responsibility can vary by state. From what I can understand from your answer, you don't have to pay for an attorney for him, he's just not eligible for legal aid. Fire the lawyer if he has one. Send any lawyer that you've ever paid for a notarized letter stating that you will not pay any further legal fees as of the time their office signs for your letter. That ought to put a stop to a lot of the nonsense.
