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<blockquote data-quote="Midst" data-source="post: 765816" data-attributes="member: 33543"><p>Thank you! I really needed this. I spent years jumping right away whenever my adult daughter was in a bad situation that she herself created. She started out with an addiction to alcohol, then cocane and any other drugs she could get her hands on. She's been in relationships that she has trashed because of her inability to be a stable and honest person. She started using meth about 6 years ago and I have watched it devastate her. She jumped from place to place,&nbsp; using and abusing anyone who offered help. I began the detachment process 4 years ago, but it was very painful to reject her pleas. The absolute worst time for me was when she got pregnant and was living outdoors in a shed. She begged me to bring her home, but I wouldn't rescue her. My husband was going through treatment for 3rd stage throat cancer during the same time. She used during the entire pregnancy and I didn't know if the baby would live, or what damage was possibly caused. She hated being pregnant and she made comments about leaving the baby in the woods or selling it to her druggy friend. When she contacted me and said that she was having contractions I drove 3 1/2 hours away to get her and bring her home to ensure that the baby would be born safe. She didn't even know how far along she was, and we thought she had another month to go. She went into labor 2 days after I brought her back, and the baby boy was born addicted. DHS placed him in the care of my husband and I and we were awarded full custody 4 months later. Now that we have a toddler to keep safe,&nbsp; the impulse to rescue her has faded. I think of her everyday and I hurt for her, but I have learned to detach with love.</p></blockquote><p></p>

[QUOTE="Midst, post: 765816, member: 33543"] Thank you! I really needed this. I spent years jumping right away whenever my adult daughter was in a bad situation that she herself created. She started out with an addiction to alcohol, then cocane and any other drugs she could get her hands on. She's been in relationships that she has trashed because of her inability to be a stable and honest person. She started using meth about 6 years ago and I have watched it devastate her. She jumped from place to place, using and abusing anyone who offered help. I began the detachment process 4 years ago, but it was very painful to reject her pleas. The absolute worst time for me was when she got pregnant and was living outdoors in a shed. She begged me to bring her home, but I wouldn't rescue her. My husband was going through treatment for 3rd stage throat cancer during the same time. She used during the entire pregnancy and I didn't know if the baby would live, or what damage was possibly caused. She hated being pregnant and she made comments about leaving the baby in the woods or selling it to her druggy friend. When she contacted me and said that she was having contractions I drove 3 1/2 hours away to get her and bring her home to ensure that the baby would be born safe. She didn't even know how far along she was, and we thought she had another month to go. She went into labor 2 days after I brought her back, and the baby boy was born addicted. DHS placed him in the care of my husband and I and we were awarded full custody 4 months later. Now that we have a toddler to keep safe, the impulse to rescue her has faded. I think of her everyday and I hurt for her, but I have learned to detach with love. [/QUOTE]

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