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<blockquote data-quote="Blighty" data-source="post: 766064" data-attributes="member: 21991">[USER=33640]Be@peace[/USER] sorry to hear about the loss of your son. It's hard to understand what is going on for your grandson. It's likely he probably doesn't know quite why he can't make contact with you either. Some feelings are making it difficult for him to reach out.By keeping the door open you are doing all you can do; and that probably is of comfort to him to know you are there offering it, even though he's not able to accept right now.They're his problems and he is an adult. If he needs to bring the problems to you for advice, he will. The most empowering thing we can do is to trust other people to look after their own needs, even if we don't approve of their choices. I know it's easier said than done. But it's so important you look after yourself and not get caught up with all the 'what if's' of things outside your control.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Blighty, post: 766064, member: 21991"] [USER=33640]Be@peace[/USER] sorry to hear about the loss of your son. It's hard to understand what is going on for your grandson. It's likely he probably doesn't know quite why he can't make contact with you either. Some feelings are making it difficult for him to reach out. By keeping the door open you are doing all you can do; and that probably is of comfort to him to know you are there offering it, even though he's not able to accept right now. They're his problems and he is an adult. If he needs to bring the problems to you for advice, he will. The most empowering thing we can do is to trust other people to look after their own needs, even if we don't approve of their choices. I know it's easier said than done. But it's so important you look after yourself and not get caught up with all the 'what if's' of things outside your control. [/QUOTE]

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