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<blockquote data-quote="gardengirl1958" data-source="post: 676331" data-attributes="member: 19929"><p>Gosh, Insane, you are so right! I constantly have to stop myself from comparing. It's a life killer and a hope killer to do it. Rising up to another level of challenges - man you are so right on! I keep thinking, "okay this next step will be the launch!" But it never is. It's another step. I so wish there was a manual. When do you stop and accept where they are? Or do you just keep helping them to grow? He hates me when I make him step up to the task - oh the hell I go through! But then when he attains it, he's so much happier with his new level of ability and independence. Kind of like being set free from bondage. On the one hand, we've joyfully embraced Aspergers and know it's not a curse but a gift. On the other hand, as a mom, it just hurts to see your son not be able to drive on his own or do certain things that come so easy for other guys his age he knows. I know it embarrasses him at times, but it's his truth, his reality. Life is harder with Aspergers. Every day has its issues and to ignore it is just to defeat yourself. So we address it, but we move on. It is our normal. You know? I get a lot of flack from some folks, but then they marvel at what a good guy he is and how accomplished. So what does a person do with that? How do I process that add his mom who is also an Aspie? I mean, while I'm dealing with his issues, I'm also dealing with mine and my husband's. It's constantly a juggling act. There's so much work that goes into maintaining balance for all of us. I'm always wondering what I'm missing. What should I be doing to help us all? What can we handle? You know? In always guessing through this. But I now for sure, that our "okay" is uniquely ours and not what looks "normal" to other people. And I've had to guard it and not doubt. Really tough to do!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="gardengirl1958, post: 676331, member: 19929"] Gosh, Insane, you are so right! I constantly have to stop myself from comparing. It's a life killer and a hope killer to do it. Rising up to another level of challenges - man you are so right on! I keep thinking, "okay this next step will be the launch!" But it never is. It's another step. I so wish there was a manual. When do you stop and accept where they are? Or do you just keep helping them to grow? He hates me when I make him step up to the task - oh the hell I go through! But then when he attains it, he's so much happier with his new level of ability and independence. Kind of like being set free from bondage. On the one hand, we've joyfully embraced Aspergers and know it's not a curse but a gift. On the other hand, as a mom, it just hurts to see your son not be able to drive on his own or do certain things that come so easy for other guys his age he knows. I know it embarrasses him at times, but it's his truth, his reality. Life is harder with Aspergers. Every day has its issues and to ignore it is just to defeat yourself. So we address it, but we move on. It is our normal. You know? I get a lot of flack from some folks, but then they marvel at what a good guy he is and how accomplished. So what does a person do with that? How do I process that add his mom who is also an Aspie? I mean, while I'm dealing with his issues, I'm also dealing with mine and my husband's. It's constantly a juggling act. There's so much work that goes into maintaining balance for all of us. I'm always wondering what I'm missing. What should I be doing to help us all? What can we handle? You know? In always guessing through this. But I now for sure, that our "okay" is uniquely ours and not what looks "normal" to other people. And I've had to guard it and not doubt. Really tough to do! [/QUOTE]
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