Confused...it's not about you. It is everything they have gone through with everyone they have known, including their father. I don't know if they had a chaotic early life or not, but rather than autism or maybe on top of autism they have attachment issues, which manifests a lot like Conduct Disorder. You know the information. I don't. If you're wondering what kids with Conduct Disorder are like vs. autism (remember they can have both), I'll post a couple YouTube videos about each disorder. See if anything rings a bell because they are very different disorders and your children have not really been properly assessed as of yet. A pediatric neurologist and pediatrician do not test for these psychological disorders. Neurologists do things like epilepsy, migraines and brain tumors. Pediatricians do the flu, strep, and basic development. They do not have the extra training it takes to test and diagnose behavioral problems and the why of them...or the correct medication.
Anyhow, I wish you luck. Here are the videos I promised. Hugs to you and I hope you find your answers soon! And a hosptal stay does not diagnose. It is simply to stabilize and would not be long term. However, DO take action if your children hurt themselves or you. I'd be very worried about the boy who says he wants to kill people all the time. It may just be talk, but I wouldn't want to take that chance...Know what I mean??
ASpergers here:
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Conduct Disroder here:
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