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<blockquote data-quote="Nature" data-source="post: 740204" data-attributes="member: 19011"><p>Hi,</p><p>I'm so sorry you are going through this and my heart goes out to you. </p><p></p><p>My son was the same way - he destroyed doors, walls, windows, ect in anger. Life was unbearable with him at home and yes as a result of drugs he was very destructive. Not all are as other posters have mentioned as there are other factors that may be in place. </p><p></p><p>It's one of the most painful things in the world to observe to see our child hurt the ones who would stand by their side. Instead, a lot of the anger is focused on those people. I remember coming home early in my son's addiction when he was a young teen to find out he had stolen and sold everything in my home of value. It wasn't much as I had struggled as a single mom and I was so hurt he did that to me. He would also get angry when I refused him money to further fuel his addiction...this is where the tough love stance comes to play. Later in life my son destroyed things in every place he lived in until I no longer purchased anything for him. Later, he turned to a life of crime and suffered the consequences. I could only cry at what had become of him.I was appalled that he was robbing people and stealing - the very things that were so against my nature I refused to bail him out. It's a horrible catch 22 situation as drugs can cause paranoia and in turn they feel they must protect what they have - hence knives under beds. Yet, in their drug addiction they fail to realize that it is themselves who are the most dangerous. </p><p></p><p>There are no right or wrong answers as to what turns a person's life around. They must want it themselves and although we can talk to them about it is only when they admit they have a problem can they begin to change.</p><p></p><p>As for you....stay strong and by that I mean keep coming back here to receive support from others. If you become unwell you will be of no help to anyone when the time comes. Instead you may fall into despair and it will be helping no one. If you feel unable to deal with this at the moment then I agree stay a distance for your own well being. Perhaps join a support group and be with others that truly understand what you are going through. Do things for yourself so you can smile again. </p><p>Hugs</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nature, post: 740204, member: 19011"] Hi, I'm so sorry you are going through this and my heart goes out to you. My son was the same way - he destroyed doors, walls, windows, ect in anger. Life was unbearable with him at home and yes as a result of drugs he was very destructive. Not all are as other posters have mentioned as there are other factors that may be in place. It's one of the most painful things in the world to observe to see our child hurt the ones who would stand by their side. Instead, a lot of the anger is focused on those people. I remember coming home early in my son's addiction when he was a young teen to find out he had stolen and sold everything in my home of value. It wasn't much as I had struggled as a single mom and I was so hurt he did that to me. He would also get angry when I refused him money to further fuel his addiction...this is where the tough love stance comes to play. Later in life my son destroyed things in every place he lived in until I no longer purchased anything for him. Later, he turned to a life of crime and suffered the consequences. I could only cry at what had become of him.I was appalled that he was robbing people and stealing - the very things that were so against my nature I refused to bail him out. It's a horrible catch 22 situation as drugs can cause paranoia and in turn they feel they must protect what they have - hence knives under beds. Yet, in their drug addiction they fail to realize that it is themselves who are the most dangerous. There are no right or wrong answers as to what turns a person's life around. They must want it themselves and although we can talk to them about it is only when they admit they have a problem can they begin to change. As for you....stay strong and by that I mean keep coming back here to receive support from others. If you become unwell you will be of no help to anyone when the time comes. Instead you may fall into despair and it will be helping no one. If you feel unable to deal with this at the moment then I agree stay a distance for your own well being. Perhaps join a support group and be with others that truly understand what you are going through. Do things for yourself so you can smile again. Hugs [/QUOTE]
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