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<blockquote data-quote="RN0441" data-source="post: 712395" data-attributes="member: 15032"><p>Lost In Sadness</p><p></p><p>You said it yourself. As long as you keep contact with him nothing will change.</p><p></p><p>How old is your son?</p><p></p><p>I do not talk to my son at all when he is using. He was doing pretty well and then got pills again. I knew something was going on so I blocked him. He talked to his dad some but not a lot.</p><p></p><p>I will not talk to someone when they are being deceitful. I don't care who they are. I don't care if I gave birth to them.</p><p></p><p>He is now doing very well in rehab and moving to IOP next week. This is the first time that I have seen him "do the work" but it all is like water off a duck's back to me. (I read this in a book and it just hit the nail on the head for me). </p><p></p><p>It took him years of being like this so nothing is going to change over night. I need to see a lot of change and a lot of work and that to me is YEARS before I will open my heart up all the way to let him in. He will always be there but I am protecting myself because I have been hurt too many times.</p><p></p><p>One little good thing just doesn't do it. You know your son isn't truly committed to change and nothing else will do. </p><p></p><p>I am pretty much waiting for my son to make something out of himself. It reminds me of how Asian parents parent their children. They do not praise them often for fear the child may think they are "done". We are so far from that with our son.</p><p></p><p>It sounds like you are getting there.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="RN0441, post: 712395, member: 15032"] Lost In Sadness You said it yourself. As long as you keep contact with him nothing will change. How old is your son? I do not talk to my son at all when he is using. He was doing pretty well and then got pills again. I knew something was going on so I blocked him. He talked to his dad some but not a lot. I will not talk to someone when they are being deceitful. I don't care who they are. I don't care if I gave birth to them. He is now doing very well in rehab and moving to IOP next week. This is the first time that I have seen him "do the work" but it all is like water off a duck's back to me. (I read this in a book and it just hit the nail on the head for me). It took him years of being like this so nothing is going to change over night. I need to see a lot of change and a lot of work and that to me is YEARS before I will open my heart up all the way to let him in. He will always be there but I am protecting myself because I have been hurt too many times. One little good thing just doesn't do it. You know your son isn't truly committed to change and nothing else will do. I am pretty much waiting for my son to make something out of himself. It reminds me of how Asian parents parent their children. They do not praise them often for fear the child may think they are "done". We are so far from that with our son. It sounds like you are getting there. [/QUOTE]
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