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At my Wits end - sorry I've not been here!
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<blockquote data-quote="Kathryn" data-source="post: 712402" data-attributes="member: 20947"><p>Lost in Sadness,</p><p></p><p>ALL of the above messages have been 'spot on', and although tough to absorb - you should nevertheless TRY to embrace some of the well meaning suggestions. Having lived through a similar scenario with my son (who is now 36 and has completely turned his life around from the downward spiral he was living since 13 yrs of age), and going through a current situation with my 31-yr old daughter with Borderline Personality Disorder - I can honestly say that TOUGH LOVE can and will save you. Everyone here has touched on a different, but very effective technique, that will help you practice tough love: detachment is paramount. Otherwise, you wind up ENABLING your son to do all his hideous deeds and abuse you. </p><p></p><p>Take control of YOUR life - remember, there are other people in your family circle also. Too often we become obsessed with and completely involved with our 'problem' child - to the exclusion and detriment of other loved ones. Please, PLEASE force yourself to make these very difficult decisions in order to save yourself. Your life, and those around you, depend on it. It's very much like dealing with an alcoholic - and AA understands that addicts have to often 'hit rock bottom' in order to begin the process of re-building their lives. </p><p></p><p>Please DO either find a support group, or Al Anon, or a therapist, to aid you on this very difficult path. This forum and my own therapist have been my salvation. It takes strength, perseverance, AND love to remain steadfast. You ARE a good and loving mother - no matter what he or anyone else might say. </p><p></p><p>I wish you only positive and loving thoughts as you forge through this battle of love. Please stay connected with all of us. xoxo</p><p></p><p>Kathryn</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Kathryn, post: 712402, member: 20947"] Lost in Sadness, ALL of the above messages have been 'spot on', and although tough to absorb - you should nevertheless TRY to embrace some of the well meaning suggestions. Having lived through a similar scenario with my son (who is now 36 and has completely turned his life around from the downward spiral he was living since 13 yrs of age), and going through a current situation with my 31-yr old daughter with Borderline Personality Disorder - I can honestly say that TOUGH LOVE can and will save you. Everyone here has touched on a different, but very effective technique, that will help you practice tough love: detachment is paramount. Otherwise, you wind up ENABLING your son to do all his hideous deeds and abuse you. Take control of YOUR life - remember, there are other people in your family circle also. Too often we become obsessed with and completely involved with our 'problem' child - to the exclusion and detriment of other loved ones. Please, PLEASE force yourself to make these very difficult decisions in order to save yourself. Your life, and those around you, depend on it. It's very much like dealing with an alcoholic - and AA understands that addicts have to often 'hit rock bottom' in order to begin the process of re-building their lives. Please DO either find a support group, or Al Anon, or a therapist, to aid you on this very difficult path. This forum and my own therapist have been my salvation. It takes strength, perseverance, AND love to remain steadfast. You ARE a good and loving mother - no matter what he or anyone else might say. I wish you only positive and loving thoughts as you forge through this battle of love. Please stay connected with all of us. xoxo Kathryn [/QUOTE]
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