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<blockquote data-quote="WiseChoices" data-source="post: 756601" data-attributes="member: 24254"><p>Ooops, my post got cut off somehow.</p><p></p><p>The way I see it, if you want him out the end of May, I would tell him a month ahead of time so he can make the proper arrangements. If you feel he needs 2 months to save up money etc , then I would tell him by the 30th of this month. In other words: the timing is on your terms and set out of necessity for you not out of fear. I would keep this announcement very simple , no explanations necessary. Something along the lines of that the current situation is no longer workable for you. If he gets in your face and scares you, call the cops. If he starts destroying anything, call the cops. Any display of violence, call the cops. </p><p></p><p>There is no need to beat yourself up about the past. It saws away at your own power. Come back to the strength you feel now, and work off of that. Your children are both sick. They are not bad but sick. You are now helping them to take responsibility for their own sickness. Just like if they had diabetes, you would not be responsible for them to go see their doctor, to pay for their insulin or to make sure they eat properly. You are doing the most loving thing you can do for them and yourself: to return everyone to their proper place of responsibility. </p><p></p><p>Think of the freedom you will feel when you come home to your own house and it is quiet and serene. Your sanctuary. Think of the joy you will feel opening your bank statement and having money available for your own self.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="WiseChoices, post: 756601, member: 24254"] Ooops, my post got cut off somehow. The way I see it, if you want him out the end of May, I would tell him a month ahead of time so he can make the proper arrangements. If you feel he needs 2 months to save up money etc , then I would tell him by the 30th of this month. In other words: the timing is on your terms and set out of necessity for you not out of fear. I would keep this announcement very simple , no explanations necessary. Something along the lines of that the current situation is no longer workable for you. If he gets in your face and scares you, call the cops. If he starts destroying anything, call the cops. Any display of violence, call the cops. There is no need to beat yourself up about the past. It saws away at your own power. Come back to the strength you feel now, and work off of that. Your children are both sick. They are not bad but sick. You are now helping them to take responsibility for their own sickness. Just like if they had diabetes, you would not be responsible for them to go see their doctor, to pay for their insulin or to make sure they eat properly. You are doing the most loving thing you can do for them and yourself: to return everyone to their proper place of responsibility. Think of the freedom you will feel when you come home to your own house and it is quiet and serene. Your sanctuary. Think of the joy you will feel opening your bank statement and having money available for your own self. [/QUOTE]
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