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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 756766" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Ow. I agree with deni about the food. Let her solve this. Don't jump back in. It's a mixed message. It's asking for trouble. Let her solve this. </p><p></p><p>By sending food you're not only sending her the message she doesn't have to meet her challenges. It's not only to continue taking responsibility. It's to undermine her and to tell her you don't believe she's responsible. She doesn't have to change. That she doesn't have capacity. And that you weren't serious. But most of all it's to say you're incapable of changing. Which isn't true. One day at a time. This is how Al Anon would help. We have been addicted to rescuing them. This is a behavior change that is your responsibility to change.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 756766, member: 18958"] Ow. I agree with deni about the food. Let her solve this. Don't jump back in. It's a mixed message. It's asking for trouble. Let her solve this. By sending food you're not only sending her the message she doesn't have to meet her challenges. It's not only to continue taking responsibility. It's to undermine her and to tell her you don't believe she's responsible. She doesn't have to change. That she doesn't have capacity. And that you weren't serious. But most of all it's to say you're incapable of changing. Which isn't true. One day at a time. This is how Al Anon would help. We have been addicted to rescuing them. This is a behavior change that is your responsibility to change. [/QUOTE]
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