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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 756893" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>To me these are very good questions, OW.I think believing the responsibility is yours to motivate them is incorrect. Moving is their obligation, if you serve them legally. You need not talk to them at all. The written notice does it for you. </p><p></p><p>Did you do the research about your legal requirements? If you do not put this in writing it does not exist. If you put it in writing, the obligation is on them, not you. It does not require you to speak. Personally, I would do what was required legally, and then, not speak. Speaking only invites abuse and confrontation.</p><p>Again, why would you have this conversation?Their luck or efforts to find a place are their business, not yours. You are not responsible to prod or to help them. You are responsible only to take care of yourself and your space. Giving legal notice (in writing, according to your State's rules) to me is the thing to do.</p><p>The outward confrontation may not be happening but the internal worrying is happening. If you give notice legally you will be putting the responsibility on them to have this conversation and to act on it.</p><p>Again, all you need to do is give legal written notice. Then, that notice is the factor that is keeping them moving, not your voice, not you, not your nagging.</p><p></p><p>If you haven't done that, nothing exists to get them out. If it is informal and verbal, the only thing that could maybe get them out is prolonged arguing, the police, or a restraining order. Do you want that?</p><p></p><p>Good luck.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 756893, member: 18958"] To me these are very good questions, OW.I think believing the responsibility is yours to motivate them is incorrect. Moving is their obligation, if you serve them legally. You need not talk to them at all. The written notice does it for you. Did you do the research about your legal requirements? If you do not put this in writing it does not exist. If you put it in writing, the obligation is on them, not you. It does not require you to speak. Personally, I would do what was required legally, and then, not speak. Speaking only invites abuse and confrontation. Again, why would you have this conversation?Their luck or efforts to find a place are their business, not yours. You are not responsible to prod or to help them. You are responsible only to take care of yourself and your space. Giving legal notice (in writing, according to your State's rules) to me is the thing to do. The outward confrontation may not be happening but the internal worrying is happening. If you give notice legally you will be putting the responsibility on them to have this conversation and to act on it. Again, all you need to do is give legal written notice. Then, that notice is the factor that is keeping them moving, not your voice, not you, not your nagging. If you haven't done that, nothing exists to get them out. If it is informal and verbal, the only thing that could maybe get them out is prolonged arguing, the police, or a restraining order. Do you want that? Good luck. [/QUOTE]
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