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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 738934" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>My opinion.</p><p></p><p>Unless it truly sooths your hurting heart, remove the man as a child in pictures. It can keep us thinking of them as that cute little boy and forget they are no longer that little boy. Then it is hard to think of them as grown men who have shed that child long ago. We forget who they are and remember who they were, sweet children.</p><p></p><p>Almost all young children,.except for a very few mentally ill children, are sweet as candy, adore us, and sometimes we believe they will always be that in love with us and be cuddly and generous. My son once left dandeleins on my desk as a special surprise and I smile at the eight year old boy who followed me around to hug me. He snuggled on.my lap all the time. He was also cold and defiant at times but I chalked that up to youth and knew he would outgrow ir. He was my best fried (his words).</p><p></p><p>The man who that child grew into can be a pain and is very self centered. We are close as far as he calls every day,but he doesnt really talk about anything not pertaining to him. My dad was like this too. Heredity? If its not about Son, he gets bored. He IS a wonderful father and will talk nonstop about his son too so that is a big plus for him. But he isnt intetested in anyone but them. He never asks how anyone is. A phone call starts in about his latest angst not even with a "hi."</p><p></p><p>So I get my family warmth, comfort and socializing from my husband and three other adult children. I have a fun, cute, smart granddaughter too and a son in law to be, very nice and fun. My son.is not that cute little boy now and it has hurt him. I dont even know if he realizes how much it has hurt him. He wants a support system but doesnt have one as he ignores his siblings and father and it is sometimes trying for me to nonstop talk about his dramatic life, but I do it because he is my son. I love him. </p><p></p><p>But nobody else will do it and he is not a child. At 40 he is who he is.</p><p></p><p>I dont have baby pictures or child pictures of him on.my walls.</p><p></p><p>Love and.light!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 738934, member: 1550"] My opinion. Unless it truly sooths your hurting heart, remove the man as a child in pictures. It can keep us thinking of them as that cute little boy and forget they are no longer that little boy. Then it is hard to think of them as grown men who have shed that child long ago. We forget who they are and remember who they were, sweet children. Almost all young children,.except for a very few mentally ill children, are sweet as candy, adore us, and sometimes we believe they will always be that in love with us and be cuddly and generous. My son once left dandeleins on my desk as a special surprise and I smile at the eight year old boy who followed me around to hug me. He snuggled on.my lap all the time. He was also cold and defiant at times but I chalked that up to youth and knew he would outgrow ir. He was my best fried (his words). The man who that child grew into can be a pain and is very self centered. We are close as far as he calls every day,but he doesnt really talk about anything not pertaining to him. My dad was like this too. Heredity? If its not about Son, he gets bored. He IS a wonderful father and will talk nonstop about his son too so that is a big plus for him. But he isnt intetested in anyone but them. He never asks how anyone is. A phone call starts in about his latest angst not even with a "hi." So I get my family warmth, comfort and socializing from my husband and three other adult children. I have a fun, cute, smart granddaughter too and a son in law to be, very nice and fun. My son.is not that cute little boy now and it has hurt him. I dont even know if he realizes how much it has hurt him. He wants a support system but doesnt have one as he ignores his siblings and father and it is sometimes trying for me to nonstop talk about his dramatic life, but I do it because he is my son. I love him. But nobody else will do it and he is not a child. At 40 he is who he is. I dont have baby pictures or child pictures of him on.my walls. Love and.light! [/QUOTE]
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