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At the ER again. Backslide for G.F.G
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<blockquote data-quote="dstc_99" data-source="post: 639006" data-attributes="member: 15473"><p>Suzir,</p><p>Last night i was laying in bed fighting insomnia and I was wondering. Did the stuff difficult child burned have to do with the sport/time in his life when the bad things happened? </p><p></p><p>The reason I ask is that you and husband may associate those things as positive memories from doing well in his life. He on the other hand may only see them as reminders of a time when he was in pain and or reminders of the people who hurt him. Possibly the person giving the items was the one hurting him? I respect your privacy and his on that one so I am just guessing. </p><p></p><p>When I was younger and a member of the family was an issue. I didn't want anything from that person anymore. I also didn't want anything from anyone in that family unit around me. I knew they had nothing to do with what was going on but the association of it all was too much for me. I avoided social events they attended especially if the offender was there. I was angry and often got rid of things that I should have kept because I couldn't disassociate them from the issues. I didn't want anything that had memories of or reminded me of that family but because of issues beyond my control I wasn't able to completely detach.</p><p></p><p>His actions, other than the capsacin and the burn he received, might have started out as something simpler like ridding himself of some painful reminders. Is it unthinkable that he was making a positive move to rid himself of pain and then got it all mixed up inside because he doesn't know how to handle the release of emotions that comes with getting rid of a burden? That relief you feel when the burden is gone can be almost overwhelming when you are healthy and probably much more when you aren't? Then his confusion led him to return to something he does understand which is the pain of a burn? Its kind of a safety zone for him since he knows what to expect and is in control of the pain then.</p><p></p><p>Just a thought and something to take in mind. I could be totally off but I thought it might be worth mentioning.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dstc_99, post: 639006, member: 15473"] Suzir, Last night i was laying in bed fighting insomnia and I was wondering. Did the stuff difficult child burned have to do with the sport/time in his life when the bad things happened? The reason I ask is that you and husband may associate those things as positive memories from doing well in his life. He on the other hand may only see them as reminders of a time when he was in pain and or reminders of the people who hurt him. Possibly the person giving the items was the one hurting him? I respect your privacy and his on that one so I am just guessing. When I was younger and a member of the family was an issue. I didn't want anything from that person anymore. I also didn't want anything from anyone in that family unit around me. I knew they had nothing to do with what was going on but the association of it all was too much for me. I avoided social events they attended especially if the offender was there. I was angry and often got rid of things that I should have kept because I couldn't disassociate them from the issues. I didn't want anything that had memories of or reminded me of that family but because of issues beyond my control I wasn't able to completely detach. His actions, other than the capsacin and the burn he received, might have started out as something simpler like ridding himself of some painful reminders. Is it unthinkable that he was making a positive move to rid himself of pain and then got it all mixed up inside because he doesn't know how to handle the release of emotions that comes with getting rid of a burden? That relief you feel when the burden is gone can be almost overwhelming when you are healthy and probably much more when you aren't? Then his confusion led him to return to something he does understand which is the pain of a burn? Its kind of a safety zone for him since he knows what to expect and is in control of the pain then. Just a thought and something to take in mind. I could be totally off but I thought it might be worth mentioning. [/QUOTE]
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