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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 758280" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>This is why the other grandmother was defensive.And this too.</p><p>OKay. </p><p></p><p>I recognize 100 percent why you would want to keep open a line of communication with your son. But the thing is it does not serve him or you if he abuses you. I suggest that you tell him that you will hang up the phone if he yells or speaks in a way that is not respectful. And do it. Every single time. If each time he calls he continues to be mean, then do not answer the phone for a week. This is the only way that this will change.</p><p></p><p>My son did this, too. I was counseled by mothers on this site to do what I am telling you. I did it. Now 99 percent of the time my son doesn't do it. Last week he tried to manipulate me with a suicide threat. But that hasn't happened in a long time. I told him to go to the hospital, but not to come here. There has to be a consequence when they act like little kids.</p><p></p><p>The only way this will change is if you change. There is no other way. I wish there was. There's not.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 758280, member: 18958"] This is why the other grandmother was defensive.And this too. OKay. I recognize 100 percent why you would want to keep open a line of communication with your son. But the thing is it does not serve him or you if he abuses you. I suggest that you tell him that you will hang up the phone if he yells or speaks in a way that is not respectful. And do it. Every single time. If each time he calls he continues to be mean, then do not answer the phone for a week. This is the only way that this will change. My son did this, too. I was counseled by mothers on this site to do what I am telling you. I did it. Now 99 percent of the time my son doesn't do it. Last week he tried to manipulate me with a suicide threat. But that hasn't happened in a long time. I told him to go to the hospital, but not to come here. There has to be a consequence when they act like little kids. The only way this will change is if you change. There is no other way. I wish there was. There's not. [/QUOTE]
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