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<blockquote data-quote="Hopeful parent" data-source="post: 758294" data-attributes="member: 21585"><p>Thank you for your kind message. And for acknowledging my concerns about my grandson. I was beginning to think I was overacting in my thoughts of his safety, especially as the other grandmother who she and her family have been very involved in my son and his girlfriends life over the last two years (where I have not until recently), appears to not be as concerned. Which is the reason I did not want to act without speaking to her first. But after speaking to my daughter we have decided to leave it for the moment. The little boy is currently still with his parents. They do look after him, it is just the mental trauma that the child must experience seeing the fighting etc that I worry about, I don't believe it can go on. The police have been there a number of times and know there is a little boy in the house. So someone must be aware. I think it will only be a matter of time before someone takes action. And my son once told me in one of his phone calls that someone has rang the welfare on them, but this was quite a while ago, so the welfare must already be aware of them as well. If it was me that did take action now the consequences to me and my family would be quite servere from I think my sons girlfriends family (after the reaction I got from the other grandmother on the phone) as well as my son. My daughter told me that if it gets any worse that she would make the call for me. </p><p>So I am going to step back as I had been and get on with my life, I had been practicing self-care and looking after myself and practicing detachment with them until recently when our son had rang us from jail, then the solicitor rang us asking if we would have him home on bail. He was not allowed to go anywhere without either me or my husband. So we of course agreed, and now here we are involved again and caught up again in all of the drama. So now time to back away again. I know my son will keep ringing, and that the new niceness he has towards us will stop as I continue to refuse to give him money, but at least while he is ringing I will know what is going on with the little boy. I also know now that my relationship which was good with the other family is now ruined and that I can't rely on them if and when I need to make a decision on my grandson.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hopeful parent, post: 758294, member: 21585"] Thank you for your kind message. And for acknowledging my concerns about my grandson. I was beginning to think I was overacting in my thoughts of his safety, especially as the other grandmother who she and her family have been very involved in my son and his girlfriends life over the last two years (where I have not until recently), appears to not be as concerned. Which is the reason I did not want to act without speaking to her first. But after speaking to my daughter we have decided to leave it for the moment. The little boy is currently still with his parents. They do look after him, it is just the mental trauma that the child must experience seeing the fighting etc that I worry about, I don't believe it can go on. The police have been there a number of times and know there is a little boy in the house. So someone must be aware. I think it will only be a matter of time before someone takes action. And my son once told me in one of his phone calls that someone has rang the welfare on them, but this was quite a while ago, so the welfare must already be aware of them as well. If it was me that did take action now the consequences to me and my family would be quite servere from I think my sons girlfriends family (after the reaction I got from the other grandmother on the phone) as well as my son. My daughter told me that if it gets any worse that she would make the call for me. So I am going to step back as I had been and get on with my life, I had been practicing self-care and looking after myself and practicing detachment with them until recently when our son had rang us from jail, then the solicitor rang us asking if we would have him home on bail. He was not allowed to go anywhere without either me or my husband. So we of course agreed, and now here we are involved again and caught up again in all of the drama. So now time to back away again. I know my son will keep ringing, and that the new niceness he has towards us will stop as I continue to refuse to give him money, but at least while he is ringing I will know what is going on with the little boy. I also know now that my relationship which was good with the other family is now ruined and that I can't rely on them if and when I need to make a decision on my grandson. [/QUOTE]
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