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<blockquote data-quote="1 Day At a Time" data-source="post: 367499" data-attributes="member: 3704"><p>WW,</p><p></p><p>I'm sending lots of hugs your way. Your difficult child sounds very much like our difficult child at that age. Nine was a very, very hard year for us. I honestly don't believe that our difficult child would have been able to tolerate that level of therapy at that age... just a thought. Your mention that the therapists are young and inexperienced really gives me pause. There is no question that you want difficult child to be able to take care of his ADL's and follow directions - but I do think that someone who has some experience under their belt with these types of kids knows when to push and when to let up. Our difficult child would get into huge power struggles with rigid type adults at this age. Interestingly his worst power struggle was with a teacher who I was convinced is on the spectrum himself - and he was terribly rigid. He (the teacher) was disciplined after he sent me an email complaining that difficult child was such a total airhead. Those were his exact words! The problems with difficult child weren't nearly at bad at home, because we had gotten better at "reading the signals".</p><p></p><p>Our difficult child didn't receive his diagnosis until he was 16, so we muddled along without any special treatment. However, the situation that you are describing would have been most difficult for him - because he did (and does) need some space. Could you possibly have a staffing with the treatment team and discuss your concerns? Maybe they can back off a little, cut down on therapy hours, and engage difficult child regarding his thoughts a little more. Rebound is a very real thing, and the prescribing doctor may need to be in the loop as well.</p><p></p><p>by the way, our difficult child is doing very well right now. He isn't , and will never be, a social animal. But he is fairly happy, a successful student, and is working at a job this summer. There is hope, and light at the end of the tunnel. Your difficult child's goals might not be exactly the same of those of those who are treating him - but as you said , they are young and inexperienced. I hope that your difficult child can teach them some things, so that they will perform better in their future work with individuals on the spectrum!</p><p></p><p>Valerie</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="1 Day At a Time, post: 367499, member: 3704"] WW, I'm sending lots of hugs your way. Your difficult child sounds very much like our difficult child at that age. Nine was a very, very hard year for us. I honestly don't believe that our difficult child would have been able to tolerate that level of therapy at that age... just a thought. Your mention that the therapists are young and inexperienced really gives me pause. There is no question that you want difficult child to be able to take care of his ADL's and follow directions - but I do think that someone who has some experience under their belt with these types of kids knows when to push and when to let up. Our difficult child would get into huge power struggles with rigid type adults at this age. Interestingly his worst power struggle was with a teacher who I was convinced is on the spectrum himself - and he was terribly rigid. He (the teacher) was disciplined after he sent me an email complaining that difficult child was such a total airhead. Those were his exact words! The problems with difficult child weren't nearly at bad at home, because we had gotten better at "reading the signals". Our difficult child didn't receive his diagnosis until he was 16, so we muddled along without any special treatment. However, the situation that you are describing would have been most difficult for him - because he did (and does) need some space. Could you possibly have a staffing with the treatment team and discuss your concerns? Maybe they can back off a little, cut down on therapy hours, and engage difficult child regarding his thoughts a little more. Rebound is a very real thing, and the prescribing doctor may need to be in the loop as well. by the way, our difficult child is doing very well right now. He isn't , and will never be, a social animal. But he is fairly happy, a successful student, and is working at a job this summer. There is hope, and light at the end of the tunnel. Your difficult child's goals might not be exactly the same of those of those who are treating him - but as you said , they are young and inexperienced. I hope that your difficult child can teach them some things, so that they will perform better in their future work with individuals on the spectrum! Valerie [/QUOTE]
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