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<blockquote data-quote="B’smom" data-source="post: 740086" data-attributes="member: 23359"><p>I’m in Ontario, Canada. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>B is in full mainstream with a 1:1 support (educational assistant) at all times. But if someone else needs help and B is ok then they’ll go help. Which is usually when things happen (like when he attached the child over the joke). </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Things work differently in our area. In order to see a specialist, you have to convince your doctor to refer you. Your child won’t even have a paediatrician unless your GP believes your child should see one. You cannot refer yourself. I think it’s becomes our government pays for it all so they filter through all referrals by using your GP to do that job. If the doctors at the treatment centre don’t believe he’s on the spectrum, there’s no way I could convince my GP to refer me to one. I guess I’ll have more information to use on Thursday when they give me their clinical diagnoses. Hopefully it’s something we can use to get him help. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Thank you for sharing. I can understand to a certain degree as well, I know what it’s like to lose something important and the immediate conflict of emotions you go through. My reaction though is not to physically lash out, which is where our concerns stem from. It breaks my heart to take things away from B. I don’t know what else to do. When we took them away, he hadn’t replaced the obsession with anything that caused that type of reaction and it was typically short lived (loved trash packs for a month, then hockey cards, etc) </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>It’s something I’m slowly coming to terms with since I came here. To be honest I never really thought about it in that way. I’ve been explaining it to J (hubby) as well. I think it’s helped us open our eyes in a way. It’s always all been about B and this residential stay has forced us to focus on the bigger picture as well. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>No I know he’s not protected, which terrifies me. Something I also spoke to his mental health worker about. I worry about my son going to jail, and what will happen to him there. Sickening thoughts considering he’s only 10. </p><p>I’ll speak with his mental health worker about involving CPS this week. She works closely with them. Perhaps she can help us facilitate the conversation. That thought also terrifies me because I’m in a similar field. That call and their investigation could cause me to lose my job. I’ll definitely have to talk to the mental health worker more on this. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>They absolutely are. We have been extremely fortunate that they truly care about his wellbeing and success. We tell them all the time, verbally and with gifts of wine</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Omg that’s absolutely horrible!!! The current treatment facility he’s at, nothing locks them from getting out (Only from getting into rooms). So if B is in his room, he can leave but if the door is shut, no one without a key can get in. So other children cant enter the space. </p><p></p><p>I’m almost positive it’s actually illegal to lock a child into any type of room- but I’d definitely have to double check that. But worse things have happened. I’m just not sure what to do. So many emotions consistently running. I don’t know what’s best anymore. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Thank you SWOT, I appreciate your support and it does help. </p><p></p><p></p><p>I say I want him out but I think I’ll never actually make that choice unless I’m forced. At the end of the day, I love him. But I also love my little one too. If J hit the kids, then he’d be gone. How do you do that when it’s your child? I’ve had to remove B’s hands because he was strangling LO, black eyes from punches and almost going down a flight of stairs when B tried to kick him down it. </p><p></p><p>We’ve gone to wrap meetings (basically one person from each agency in our community). No one offers to help as I’ve explained these situations we’re in. There’s also a rep from CPS now that I think about it. I’m shocked they didn’t get involved right there and then</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="B’smom, post: 740086, member: 23359"] I’m in Ontario, Canada. B is in full mainstream with a 1:1 support (educational assistant) at all times. But if someone else needs help and B is ok then they’ll go help. Which is usually when things happen (like when he attached the child over the joke). Things work differently in our area. In order to see a specialist, you have to convince your doctor to refer you. Your child won’t even have a paediatrician unless your GP believes your child should see one. You cannot refer yourself. I think it’s becomes our government pays for it all so they filter through all referrals by using your GP to do that job. If the doctors at the treatment centre don’t believe he’s on the spectrum, there’s no way I could convince my GP to refer me to one. I guess I’ll have more information to use on Thursday when they give me their clinical diagnoses. Hopefully it’s something we can use to get him help. Thank you for sharing. I can understand to a certain degree as well, I know what it’s like to lose something important and the immediate conflict of emotions you go through. My reaction though is not to physically lash out, which is where our concerns stem from. It breaks my heart to take things away from B. I don’t know what else to do. When we took them away, he hadn’t replaced the obsession with anything that caused that type of reaction and it was typically short lived (loved trash packs for a month, then hockey cards, etc) It’s something I’m slowly coming to terms with since I came here. To be honest I never really thought about it in that way. I’ve been explaining it to J (hubby) as well. I think it’s helped us open our eyes in a way. It’s always all been about B and this residential stay has forced us to focus on the bigger picture as well. No I know he’s not protected, which terrifies me. Something I also spoke to his mental health worker about. I worry about my son going to jail, and what will happen to him there. Sickening thoughts considering he’s only 10. I’ll speak with his mental health worker about involving CPS this week. She works closely with them. Perhaps she can help us facilitate the conversation. That thought also terrifies me because I’m in a similar field. That call and their investigation could cause me to lose my job. I’ll definitely have to talk to the mental health worker more on this. They absolutely are. We have been extremely fortunate that they truly care about his wellbeing and success. We tell them all the time, verbally and with gifts of wine Omg that’s absolutely horrible!!! The current treatment facility he’s at, nothing locks them from getting out (Only from getting into rooms). So if B is in his room, he can leave but if the door is shut, no one without a key can get in. So other children cant enter the space. I’m almost positive it’s actually illegal to lock a child into any type of room- but I’d definitely have to double check that. But worse things have happened. I’m just not sure what to do. So many emotions consistently running. I don’t know what’s best anymore. Thank you SWOT, I appreciate your support and it does help. I say I want him out but I think I’ll never actually make that choice unless I’m forced. At the end of the day, I love him. But I also love my little one too. If J hit the kids, then he’d be gone. How do you do that when it’s your child? I’ve had to remove B’s hands because he was strangling LO, black eyes from punches and almost going down a flight of stairs when B tried to kick him down it. We’ve gone to wrap meetings (basically one person from each agency in our community). No one offers to help as I’ve explained these situations we’re in. There’s also a rep from CPS now that I think about it. I’m shocked they didn’t get involved right there and then [/QUOTE]
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