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<blockquote data-quote="WiseChoices" data-source="post: 754029" data-attributes="member: 24254"><p>You really are not obligated to pay anything for your daughter anymore. And you know that .It's the feeling of obligation that is tripping you up. See if you can change your thoughts around this which will then produce different feelings. Thoughts like "when I give daughter money, I enable her addiction", "when I don't give money, she has a chance of wanting to get help", "an addict has to come to the end of herself", "I need to let go and let God and get out of God's way" . </p><p></p><p>I know it's hard. It is hard to focus on myself and take care of me first. In my case, I have to get my children off my health insurance by the next enrollment period , because I need to focus on saving that $200 for my retirement. </p><p></p><p>Your daughter's addiction has taken so much from you already: she has lied to you, stolen from you, you have lost the sweet girl she used to be when she was little. She disrespects you, and is verbally abusive. Everyone in AA and NA would tell you to let her hit her bottom . You did not cause this, you can't control it , and you can't cure it. You can contribute to her disease by giving her money .</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="WiseChoices, post: 754029, member: 24254"] You really are not obligated to pay anything for your daughter anymore. And you know that .It's the feeling of obligation that is tripping you up. See if you can change your thoughts around this which will then produce different feelings. Thoughts like "when I give daughter money, I enable her addiction", "when I don't give money, she has a chance of wanting to get help", "an addict has to come to the end of herself", "I need to let go and let God and get out of God's way" . I know it's hard. It is hard to focus on myself and take care of me first. In my case, I have to get my children off my health insurance by the next enrollment period , because I need to focus on saving that $200 for my retirement. Your daughter's addiction has taken so much from you already: she has lied to you, stolen from you, you have lost the sweet girl she used to be when she was little. She disrespects you, and is verbally abusive. Everyone in AA and NA would tell you to let her hit her bottom . You did not cause this, you can't control it , and you can't cure it. You can contribute to her disease by giving her money . [/QUOTE]
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