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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember1" data-source="post: 754035" data-attributes="member: 23706"><p>She is a heroin addict and every dime you give her will go to drugs. Twenty dollars will. One dollar. Anything. in my opinion don't do it. No cash.</p><p></p><p>We stopped giving our daughter cash once she left our house. We bought her things but no cash. Cash of any amount in an addict's hand is dangerous. She may panhandle (common), steal and some even prostitute for drug money and the $50 is a motivating start to illicit activities. I weep knowing that my daughter did all these things. But I refused to give her a head start with my money. </p><p></p><p>You have nothing to gain by giving your sick daughter cash. This is not the ticket to being healthier yourself or for encouraging her to get help. If you need to do so perhaps getting into therapy and Al Anon (one or the other or both) can teach you better coping skills. I know I needed both. Trust me, I know how it feels. I'm grateful to have found third party help. I could not have gotten better without. I think many people need therapy when faced with an addicted love one. I don't see how anyone can handle this big a problem with no outside support and guidance.</p><p></p><p>You are a good person. You can feel better about yourself without handing money to your addicted daughter. And you and she will both be better off for it. We in my opinion need to find healthy ways to deal with our troubled loved ones. We can become just as troubled if we get no help. Jmo.</p><p></p><p>As they say in Al Anon, take what you need and leave the rest. From all of our advice to you.</p><p></p><p>Prayers and hugs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember1, post: 754035, member: 23706"] She is a heroin addict and every dime you give her will go to drugs. Twenty dollars will. One dollar. Anything. in my opinion don't do it. No cash. We stopped giving our daughter cash once she left our house. We bought her things but no cash. Cash of any amount in an addict's hand is dangerous. She may panhandle (common), steal and some even prostitute for drug money and the $50 is a motivating start to illicit activities. I weep knowing that my daughter did all these things. But I refused to give her a head start with my money. You have nothing to gain by giving your sick daughter cash. This is not the ticket to being healthier yourself or for encouraging her to get help. If you need to do so perhaps getting into therapy and Al Anon (one or the other or both) can teach you better coping skills. I know I needed both. Trust me, I know how it feels. I'm grateful to have found third party help. I could not have gotten better without. I think many people need therapy when faced with an addicted love one. I don't see how anyone can handle this big a problem with no outside support and guidance. You are a good person. You can feel better about yourself without handing money to your addicted daughter. And you and she will both be better off for it. We in my opinion need to find healthy ways to deal with our troubled loved ones. We can become just as troubled if we get no help. Jmo. As they say in Al Anon, take what you need and leave the rest. From all of our advice to you. Prayers and hugs. [/QUOTE]
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