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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 766619" data-attributes="member: 18958">Did he talk this over with you?Honestly.&nbsp; I don't understand not being direct and honest with your son. And your husband. (It can be difficult for me to be direct, but I force myself if my welfare or somebody else's depends on it.)This is honest and direct:Your son is hostile. He is abusive. He is ill. I don't know how old you and your husband are but how is it that you can tolerate this drama? And with a disabled son in the house?If your husband has already tendered an invitation without consulting you, is this really fair? What about telling your husband you need to be consulted about decisions that impact you?Can one or both of you tell your son directly what is true, and what you know to be the best course of action for him, for you and your family?&nbsp; That he should stay in his own city under the care of his husband.PS It's abusive to &quot;bully and coerce&quot; a disabled person.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 766619, member: 18958"] Did he talk this over with you? Honestly. I don't understand not being direct and honest with your son. And your husband. (It can be difficult for me to be direct, but I force myself if my welfare or somebody else's depends on it.) This is honest and direct: Your son is hostile. He is abusive. He is ill. I don't know how old you and your husband are but how is it that you can tolerate this drama? And with a disabled son in the house? If your husband has already tendered an invitation without consulting you, is this really fair? What about telling your husband you need to be consulted about decisions that impact you? Can one or both of you tell your son directly what is true, and what you know to be the best course of action for him, for you and your family? That he should stay in his own city under the care of his husband. PS It's abusive to "bully and coerce" a disabled person. [/QUOTE]

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