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<blockquote data-quote="SingleADHDparent" data-source="post: 454311" data-attributes="member: 12658"><p>We started with questionnaires filled out by both myself and his preschool teacher that his counselor had given us. He is seen by a section of our local mental health department that only sees child ages birth to 6. These questionnaires were then graded and then I we met with his counselor to go over them. The numbers weren't exactly the same but both showed him in the clinic range for ADHD and ODD. At that point he was referred to a child psychiatrist who also works for mental health. At our first session we went over all the medications available and my son's behaviors. His case is considered to be unique because he has days sometimes even weeks where there are no signs of the ADHD or the ODD. But then we have weeks where he is "text book". After much discussion with family and friends as well as research on my own we decided to try Intuniv. </p><p></p><p>The major behaviors that got us started were aggression, tantrums and just outright defiance. The aggression was under control for the most part until this week. When he began throwing toys at other children at daycare. The tantrums had stopped for almost everyone but me. However he is now beginning to throw those again as well. They start as just melting down. Every time he has a transition or is told no he cries. When the crying gets him nowhere he increases the intensity until he is in full blow tantrum. This may result in throwing things or needing to be physically removed from an environment for an outright refusal to go. His impulsivity has almost resulted in him being run over by a car which is what prompted the medication increase. He told me that he could not make his feet stop running in the direction of the car. It is my policy that if he wants to throw a tantrum he does it in his room. Last week he tried to climb his wall while in a tantrum and when I addressed this issue with him I was informed that it was his room and he could do what he wanted. The kind of comment you might expect from a teenager but not a 5 year old. </p><p></p><p>He is a very restless sleeper. It seems he can't stay still even while sleeping. Last night he was up three different times during the night which is why I told him that he needed to go back to bed at 6:30 am when he got up. He had bags under his eyes and could barely stand. But he just started crying and went into a tantrum that lead to him screaming at the top of his lungs. This in turn puts him into such a coughing fit that we have to pull out either the nebulizor or inhaler. One of the side effects of intuniv is sleepiness but I can't get him to sleep more then 10 hours at night and daycare typically has to roll him off his mat and take his blankets away at the end of nap time. </p><p></p><p>His gross motors skills are advanced for his age. However, his fine motor skills are slightly behind. He can't tie his shoes will barely try and really struggles with buttons and snaps. He will wait until the absolute last minute to go to the restroom and will then end up in a meltdown because he can't get his pants off and has to go so bad. His handwriting and coloring are pretty average for his age when he is able to slow down enough and concentrate on it. </p><p></p><p>His social skills are also lacking. He throws a tantrum almost everyday when I pick him up at daycare. As we are leaving most times his friends will want hugs. Some days he will give them hugs other days he pushes them away or screams at them. </p><p></p><p>Any transition in his day results in crying. </p><p></p><p>Most days with the amount of crying and whining I feel like I have a 2 year old rather than a 5 year old. He starts kindergarten at the end of the month and I am terrified. We moved to a very small community with a school that has an amazing reputation for dealing with ADHD which I am very grateful about. </p><p></p><p>He spends two nights a week with my parents to give us a break from each other. One day last week we had to take this night away because his tantrums that day were such that I felt I couldn't ask my mother to deal with him. I am afraid to take him too many places because I hate the way people whisper and comment about his whining and crying. I know that eventually he will be able to tell what they are saying and I hate it when he feels like there is something wrong with him. He has already voiced that he was not a good person and maybe everyone would be better if he wasn't around. I constantly tell him that he is not bad just some of the choices he makes are bad choices. </p><p>[h=2][/h]</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SingleADHDparent, post: 454311, member: 12658"] We started with questionnaires filled out by both myself and his preschool teacher that his counselor had given us. He is seen by a section of our local mental health department that only sees child ages birth to 6. These questionnaires were then graded and then I we met with his counselor to go over them. The numbers weren't exactly the same but both showed him in the clinic range for ADHD and ODD. At that point he was referred to a child psychiatrist who also works for mental health. At our first session we went over all the medications available and my son's behaviors. His case is considered to be unique because he has days sometimes even weeks where there are no signs of the ADHD or the ODD. But then we have weeks where he is "text book". After much discussion with family and friends as well as research on my own we decided to try Intuniv. The major behaviors that got us started were aggression, tantrums and just outright defiance. The aggression was under control for the most part until this week. When he began throwing toys at other children at daycare. The tantrums had stopped for almost everyone but me. However he is now beginning to throw those again as well. They start as just melting down. Every time he has a transition or is told no he cries. When the crying gets him nowhere he increases the intensity until he is in full blow tantrum. This may result in throwing things or needing to be physically removed from an environment for an outright refusal to go. His impulsivity has almost resulted in him being run over by a car which is what prompted the medication increase. He told me that he could not make his feet stop running in the direction of the car. It is my policy that if he wants to throw a tantrum he does it in his room. Last week he tried to climb his wall while in a tantrum and when I addressed this issue with him I was informed that it was his room and he could do what he wanted. The kind of comment you might expect from a teenager but not a 5 year old. He is a very restless sleeper. It seems he can't stay still even while sleeping. Last night he was up three different times during the night which is why I told him that he needed to go back to bed at 6:30 am when he got up. He had bags under his eyes and could barely stand. But he just started crying and went into a tantrum that lead to him screaming at the top of his lungs. This in turn puts him into such a coughing fit that we have to pull out either the nebulizor or inhaler. One of the side effects of intuniv is sleepiness but I can't get him to sleep more then 10 hours at night and daycare typically has to roll him off his mat and take his blankets away at the end of nap time. His gross motors skills are advanced for his age. However, his fine motor skills are slightly behind. He can't tie his shoes will barely try and really struggles with buttons and snaps. He will wait until the absolute last minute to go to the restroom and will then end up in a meltdown because he can't get his pants off and has to go so bad. His handwriting and coloring are pretty average for his age when he is able to slow down enough and concentrate on it. His social skills are also lacking. He throws a tantrum almost everyday when I pick him up at daycare. As we are leaving most times his friends will want hugs. Some days he will give them hugs other days he pushes them away or screams at them. Any transition in his day results in crying. Most days with the amount of crying and whining I feel like I have a 2 year old rather than a 5 year old. He starts kindergarten at the end of the month and I am terrified. We moved to a very small community with a school that has an amazing reputation for dealing with ADHD which I am very grateful about. He spends two nights a week with my parents to give us a break from each other. One day last week we had to take this night away because his tantrums that day were such that I felt I couldn't ask my mother to deal with him. I am afraid to take him too many places because I hate the way people whisper and comment about his whining and crying. I know that eventually he will be able to tell what they are saying and I hate it when he feels like there is something wrong with him. He has already voiced that he was not a good person and maybe everyone would be better if he wasn't around. I constantly tell him that he is not bad just some of the choices he makes are bad choices. [h=2][/h] [/QUOTE]
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