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<blockquote data-quote="Elsi" data-source="post: 742802" data-attributes="member: 23349"><p>I’ll throw my two cents in in agreement with others and I think your own instincts - you do not owe him a place to stay longer than you already are, and if he wants something more than a rented room he’ll have to work harder to make enough money to be able to afford it on their own. I always tell mine if something isn’t all you can afford than by definition it is not ‘beneath you’. It is exactly what you have earned by your current life choices. </p><p></p><p>Letting him stay longer may also just get you in more or a legal mess if it muddies the waters between guest and a tenant with legal rights. Depending on your state tenants rights can come up even without paying rent and having a lease, as I understand it. He is a guest right now. Keep it that way.</p><p></p><p>If he doesn’t find something before your trip, that’s what economotels are for. If you’re feeling generous and it greases the wheels, maybe you want to pay half for another week there while you’re gone if he can’t afford it on his own. Or, as others have suggested, there are always shelters if need be. But he’s going to have to get a second job or look for something full time and higher paying if he wants more out of life. You are not responsible for filling in the gaps between what he has earned for himself and what he somehow feels he deserves. You’ve done enough.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Elsi, post: 742802, member: 23349"] I’ll throw my two cents in in agreement with others and I think your own instincts - you do not owe him a place to stay longer than you already are, and if he wants something more than a rented room he’ll have to work harder to make enough money to be able to afford it on their own. I always tell mine if something isn’t all you can afford than by definition it is not ‘beneath you’. It is exactly what you have earned by your current life choices. Letting him stay longer may also just get you in more or a legal mess if it muddies the waters between guest and a tenant with legal rights. Depending on your state tenants rights can come up even without paying rent and having a lease, as I understand it. He is a guest right now. Keep it that way. If he doesn’t find something before your trip, that’s what economotels are for. If you’re feeling generous and it greases the wheels, maybe you want to pay half for another week there while you’re gone if he can’t afford it on his own. Or, as others have suggested, there are always shelters if need be. But he’s going to have to get a second job or look for something full time and higher paying if he wants more out of life. You are not responsible for filling in the gaps between what he has earned for himself and what he somehow feels he deserves. You’ve done enough. [/QUOTE]
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