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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 742812" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>Hi Skittles,</p><p></p><p>Here's my two cents.</p><p></p><p>Your son is 32, he a grown man that should not be moving back home. He should not have put you in the situation to let him. I get it, your heart wants to help him but sometimes helping isn't helping. I could see it if he was responsible, paying rent and the apt. caught fire but that's not what happened. His girlfriend kicked him out.</p><p>I think 2 weeks is very generous of you. You have NOTHING to feel guilty about. This is of his doing not yours.</p><p></p><p></p><p>This really concerns me. I can only tell you what I would do and the first thing I would do after he's out is change the lock on my house. I would also tell him he is not to be there when you are not home. I would call the local police station and alert them, they can do drive by's to check on your house. Also, let your neighbors know that you will be gone.</p><p>You are not unreasonable to give him a 2 week deadline.</p><p>Please do not allow your emotions to rule here. Of course you love him and worry about him but he's a 32 year old man. He is not a child who needs's mommy to take care of him.</p><p></p><p>What is your plan to have if he does not find a place to live in 2 weeks? I don't mean to be harsh and this is only a suggestion but if he wont' leave on his own you might consider having an officer come to your home to remove him. Tell the officer you have an unwanted person in your home that refuses to leave. You don't want him staying there long enough to establish tenancy as then you would have to go through an eviction process. I also would not allow him to receive any mail at your home.</p><p></p><p>I know this is hard. I've been right there where you are now. Remember, you do not owe your son anything and don't let him try to make you think you do.</p><p></p><p>Please let us know how things are going.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 742812, member: 18516"] Hi Skittles, Here's my two cents. Your son is 32, he a grown man that should not be moving back home. He should not have put you in the situation to let him. I get it, your heart wants to help him but sometimes helping isn't helping. I could see it if he was responsible, paying rent and the apt. caught fire but that's not what happened. His girlfriend kicked him out. I think 2 weeks is very generous of you. You have NOTHING to feel guilty about. This is of his doing not yours. This really concerns me. I can only tell you what I would do and the first thing I would do after he's out is change the lock on my house. I would also tell him he is not to be there when you are not home. I would call the local police station and alert them, they can do drive by's to check on your house. Also, let your neighbors know that you will be gone. You are not unreasonable to give him a 2 week deadline. Please do not allow your emotions to rule here. Of course you love him and worry about him but he's a 32 year old man. He is not a child who needs's mommy to take care of him. What is your plan to have if he does not find a place to live in 2 weeks? I don't mean to be harsh and this is only a suggestion but if he wont' leave on his own you might consider having an officer come to your home to remove him. Tell the officer you have an unwanted person in your home that refuses to leave. You don't want him staying there long enough to establish tenancy as then you would have to go through an eviction process. I also would not allow him to receive any mail at your home. I know this is hard. I've been right there where you are now. Remember, you do not owe your son anything and don't let him try to make you think you do. Please let us know how things are going. [/QUOTE]
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