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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 690098" data-attributes="member: 15801"><p>Pasa, I feel for you. Sometimes doing the best right thing does not feel good. I think ultimately we have to make the best decision for ourselves, but that decision does not always feel good. I think the fact that it makes you feel sick to your stomach to bring him back into your home is your gut telling you that is not the right thing to do. And the fact that he has threatened violence is a big thing. And the fact that he is blaming you for his behavior is also a big thing. These two things say to me it really is not safe for him to come home to your home.</p><p></p><p>You deserve to have your home feel like a safe secure place, and not to be walking on eggshells all the time.</p><p></p><p>But I also know that the times I have had to say no to my son when he was hurting are the hardest times.... The tears and the begging are awful. They tear at the heart strings in a big way. At least for me it is easier to hear the nasty abusive talk (that with my son often comes when he doesn't get what he wants) because that makes me angry and I get clear. But the heart breaking tears are the worst.</p><p></p><p>Stay strong. They do find ways to survive.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 690098, member: 15801"] Pasa, I feel for you. Sometimes doing the best right thing does not feel good. I think ultimately we have to make the best decision for ourselves, but that decision does not always feel good. I think the fact that it makes you feel sick to your stomach to bring him back into your home is your gut telling you that is not the right thing to do. And the fact that he has threatened violence is a big thing. And the fact that he is blaming you for his behavior is also a big thing. These two things say to me it really is not safe for him to come home to your home. You deserve to have your home feel like a safe secure place, and not to be walking on eggshells all the time. But I also know that the times I have had to say no to my son when he was hurting are the hardest times.... The tears and the begging are awful. They tear at the heart strings in a big way. At least for me it is easier to hear the nasty abusive talk (that with my son often comes when he doesn't get what he wants) because that makes me angry and I get clear. But the heart breaking tears are the worst. Stay strong. They do find ways to survive. [/QUOTE]
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