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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 662108" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I want to make another comment, Lioness. Forgive me, it is something that you may not take kindly but it is important to me.</p><p></p><p>When you describe your daughter as having a diagnosis of Borderline Personality Disorder, with the traits that go with it, it does not seem kind.</p><p></p><p>You show a great deal of anger towards her, which does not sound loving.</p><p></p><p>If you show these feelings to her. If she knows you disparage her as a "diagnosis."</p><p></p><p>If she knows that you hold her and her alone as the responsible one, for the destruction of your relationship, I understand why she might seek distance from you.</p><p></p><p>This is your daughter, Lioness. Your beloved daughter. While she may have inherited traits through a genetic predisposition that you do not like, she is your daughter.</p><p></p><p>She was your daughter who needed and still needs and craves your love and your care. And now she requires your respect. Before she was a mother, she was a daughter. Your daughter.</p><p></p><p>Lioness, can you find it in your heart to love her? As she is. Not as you want her to be? Can you love her? Can you find love for her beneath or apart from your anger? Can you love her no matter what? Whether she gives you what you want, or not?</p><p></p><p>Even if you never again see your granddaughter, can you find love for your daughter?</p><p></p><p>Lioness, I am not forgiving her. I am not overlooking the hurts she has caused and the blame you feel she deserves.</p><p></p><p>She is your daughter. You loved her once and love her still. Find that love for her, if you can. It will free you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 662108, member: 18958"] I want to make another comment, Lioness. Forgive me, it is something that you may not take kindly but it is important to me. When you describe your daughter as having a diagnosis of Borderline Personality Disorder, with the traits that go with it, it does not seem kind. You show a great deal of anger towards her, which does not sound loving. If you show these feelings to her. If she knows you disparage her as a "diagnosis." If she knows that you hold her and her alone as the responsible one, for the destruction of your relationship, I understand why she might seek distance from you. This is your daughter, Lioness. Your beloved daughter. While she may have inherited traits through a genetic predisposition that you do not like, she is your daughter. She was your daughter who needed and still needs and craves your love and your care. And now she requires your respect. Before she was a mother, she was a daughter. Your daughter. Lioness, can you find it in your heart to love her? As she is. Not as you want her to be? Can you love her? Can you find love for her beneath or apart from your anger? Can you love her no matter what? Whether she gives you what you want, or not? Even if you never again see your granddaughter, can you find love for your daughter? Lioness, I am not forgiving her. I am not overlooking the hurts she has caused and the blame you feel she deserves. She is your daughter. You loved her once and love her still. Find that love for her, if you can. It will free you. [/QUOTE]
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