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Been a long time...difficult child still breaks my heart
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<blockquote data-quote="Stress Bunny" data-source="post: 627339" data-attributes="member: 4855"><p>Tess,</p><p>Sorry to hear you are going through this. It sounds like you are weary and worn out with it. I can't say that it ever stops hurting. I too wonder the same thing.</p><p></p><p>What has helped me so far is detaching as much as possible from the drama. Realizing you cannot change your difficult child's behavior and situation is both deflating and freeing at the same time. You cannot change her, but you can change yourself and your reactions to it. For me, this has involved letting go and grieving as well. BUT . . . I do feel better on a daily basis, save for the periodic waves of grief. I am working on taking care of myself, my husband, and our other son.</p><p></p><p>As I mentioned, I don't know if it ever stops hurting completely, but I believe it will lessen over time and with proper boundaries and self care on our part. Bless you, and I hope you find peace and joy in some way going forward.</p><p></p><p>I suggest reading about setting boundaries with adult children, joining a group, i.e. NAMI parent support group or Al-Anon, etc., and seeking therapy for yourself. Plus, you can post on this wonderful forum where you will find yourself lifted up when you feel like falling down. (hugs)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Stress Bunny, post: 627339, member: 4855"] Tess, Sorry to hear you are going through this. It sounds like you are weary and worn out with it. I can't say that it ever stops hurting. I too wonder the same thing. What has helped me so far is detaching as much as possible from the drama. Realizing you cannot change your difficult child's behavior and situation is both deflating and freeing at the same time. You cannot change her, but you can change yourself and your reactions to it. For me, this has involved letting go and grieving as well. BUT . . . I do feel better on a daily basis, save for the periodic waves of grief. I am working on taking care of myself, my husband, and our other son. As I mentioned, I don't know if it ever stops hurting completely, but I believe it will lessen over time and with proper boundaries and self care on our part. Bless you, and I hope you find peace and joy in some way going forward. I suggest reading about setting boundaries with adult children, joining a group, i.e. NAMI parent support group or Al-Anon, etc., and seeking therapy for yourself. Plus, you can post on this wonderful forum where you will find yourself lifted up when you feel like falling down. (hugs) [/QUOTE]
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