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Been a while, but I'm sure few of you will be surprised that I'm back to square one
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<blockquote data-quote="Scott_G" data-source="post: 604514" data-attributes="member: 16626"><p>Reading that story makes me angry. Brings back feelings of how things were with my son at that age, in fact that story could be about my son. We tried the Army thing at 18, thought it would make a man out of him. They didn't take him because of his criminal record. He had been mouthing off to us since he was 15 and still did it as an adult. We heard the too tired to go to work thing too. He would go out and party on a weeknight and oversleep. He has no consideration for ANYBODY. The worst part was he didn't have a car so one of his coworkers was nice enough to pick him up-and he'd leave the guy waiting in our driveway. He was painting houses for work and one day he got angry at his boss and told him off and walked off the job. He told us that he didn't understand why he had to work. He thought we owed him! When we threatened to kick him out he gave us all the emotional BS: "nobody loves me", "I'm gonna kill myself", "I hope you will be happy when I'm living behind a dumpster downtown." You know what? He didn't kill himself, and he never ended up homeless. He's a charming guy and always found someone to take him in. We took him in TWICE as an adult, and within a few months, put him out both times, and he never ended up homeless. He's 31 now and still screwing up, but he will live in my home over my dead body.</p><p></p><p>Your son is an adult. Trust me, if you don't detach now, your son will NEVER grow up and be a man. Well he may not do that anyway, but he has to be allowed to live his own life, and if that means he fails, well so be it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scott_G, post: 604514, member: 16626"] Reading that story makes me angry. Brings back feelings of how things were with my son at that age, in fact that story could be about my son. We tried the Army thing at 18, thought it would make a man out of him. They didn't take him because of his criminal record. He had been mouthing off to us since he was 15 and still did it as an adult. We heard the too tired to go to work thing too. He would go out and party on a weeknight and oversleep. He has no consideration for ANYBODY. The worst part was he didn't have a car so one of his coworkers was nice enough to pick him up-and he'd leave the guy waiting in our driveway. He was painting houses for work and one day he got angry at his boss and told him off and walked off the job. He told us that he didn't understand why he had to work. He thought we owed him! When we threatened to kick him out he gave us all the emotional BS: "nobody loves me", "I'm gonna kill myself", "I hope you will be happy when I'm living behind a dumpster downtown." You know what? He didn't kill himself, and he never ended up homeless. He's a charming guy and always found someone to take him in. We took him in TWICE as an adult, and within a few months, put him out both times, and he never ended up homeless. He's 31 now and still screwing up, but he will live in my home over my dead body. Your son is an adult. Trust me, if you don't detach now, your son will NEVER grow up and be a man. Well he may not do that anyway, but he has to be allowed to live his own life, and if that means he fails, well so be it. [/QUOTE]
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