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Sorry for late reply. I’ve been busy at work amd out this weekend trying to relax. She went to college first day without an issue my wife said but became her old self once done with classes. On,y had two classes that day and then off Thursday and Friday. Now she just doesent do her work. Everything at this community it’s college is done through a portal for student. She has a log in to check e mails and assignments yet refuses to do it. Drives my wife crazy. I mentioned something today to my daughter about it and she said she would fail on purpose if kept bugging her. Said the same thing in high school. Again she’s 19. An adult so can’t force her to do medications or therapy. She has been down therapy road multiple times amd on medications. She hates the medications and when I therapy likes to blame everyone else or just refuses to talk about anything. I’ve offered her everything from trying different therapist to hypnosis to a “life coach”to help her get organized and prepare for all the things about college. Refuses them all. Someone suggested doing horseback riding at a local place that uses them for therapy. Have not asked her about this. I know she’s depressed even though she says no she’s not. If I were her I would hate my life. Not having physical friends to hang with. Only people on computer. Always being angry when asked about school. Yet she will text me if I’m out to pick her up food or a coffee. This will be her first full week of class. I’m not going to say anything about her HW. She’s old enough to know what to do. I’ve told my wife to let it rest until the semester ends if makes it that far and if she fails then will have to reassess the situation. Also I’ve asked her about volunteering at the place we adopted her cat from. One she doesent drive so would need a ride and it’s about 20 minutes away amd two she’s not interested. Even have two art places nearby one which she did volunteer at for about a week amd did not like it. So that’s where we stand. I wouldn’t be able to just kick her out because there are no places to go around here. As her psychiatrist told me a few months ago she’s stuck amd until can unstick hersel he can’t do anything. Sometimes I think she does things to be spiteful too. Especially since she and mom don’t always get along.

<blockquote data-quote="Drew64" data-source="post: 739862" data-attributes="member: 18676"><p>Sorry for late reply. I’ve been busy at work amd out this weekend trying to relax. She went to college first day without an issue my wife said but became her old self once done with classes. On,y had two classes that day and then off Thursday and Friday. Now she just doesent do her work. Everything at this community it’s college is done through a portal for student. She has a log in to check e mails and assignments yet refuses to do it. Drives my wife crazy. I mentioned something today to my daughter about it and she said she would fail on purpose if kept bugging her. Said the same thing in high school. Again she’s 19. An adult so can’t force her to do medications or therapy. She has been down therapy road multiple times amd on medications. She hates the medications and when I therapy likes to blame everyone else or just refuses to talk about anything. I’ve offered her everything from trying different therapist to hypnosis to a “life coach”to help her get organized and prepare for all the things about college. Refuses them all. Someone suggested doing horseback riding at a local place that uses them for therapy. Have not asked her about this. I know she’s depressed even though she says no she’s not. If I were her I would hate my life. Not having physical friends to hang with. Only people on computer. Always being angry when asked about school. Yet she will text me if I’m out to pick her up food or a coffee.&nbsp; This will be her first full week of class. I’m not going to say anything about her HW. She’s old enough to know what to do. I’ve told my wife to let it rest until the semester ends if makes it that far and if she fails then will have to reassess the situation. Also I’ve asked her about volunteering at the place we adopted her cat from. One she doesent drive so would need a ride and it’s about 20 minutes away amd two she’s not interested. Even have two art places nearby one which she did volunteer at for about a week amd did not like it. So that’s where we stand. I wouldn’t be able to just kick her out because there are no places to go around here. As her psychiatrist told me a few months ago she’s stuck amd until can unstick hersel he can’t do anything. Sometimes I think she does things to be spiteful too. Especially since she and mom don’t always get along.</p></blockquote><p></p>

[QUOTE="Drew64, post: 739862, member: 18676"] Sorry for late reply. I’ve been busy at work amd out this weekend trying to relax. She went to college first day without an issue my wife said but became her old self once done with classes. On,y had two classes that day and then off Thursday and Friday. Now she just doesent do her work. Everything at this community it’s college is done through a portal for student. She has a log in to check e mails and assignments yet refuses to do it. Drives my wife crazy. I mentioned something today to my daughter about it and she said she would fail on purpose if kept bugging her. Said the same thing in high school. Again she’s 19. An adult so can’t force her to do medications or therapy. She has been down therapy road multiple times amd on medications. She hates the medications and when I therapy likes to blame everyone else or just refuses to talk about anything. I’ve offered her everything from trying different therapist to hypnosis to a “life coach”to help her get organized and prepare for all the things about college. Refuses them all. Someone suggested doing horseback riding at a local place that uses them for therapy. Have not asked her about this. I know she’s depressed even though she says no she’s not. If I were her I would hate my life. Not having physical friends to hang with. Only people on computer. Always being angry when asked about school. Yet she will text me if I’m out to pick her up food or a coffee. This will be her first full week of class. I’m not going to say anything about her HW. She’s old enough to know what to do. I’ve told my wife to let it rest until the semester ends if makes it that far and if she fails then will have to reassess the situation. Also I’ve asked her about volunteering at the place we adopted her cat from. One she doesent drive so would need a ride and it’s about 20 minutes away amd two she’s not interested. Even have two art places nearby one which she did volunteer at for about a week amd did not like it. So that’s where we stand. I wouldn’t be able to just kick her out because there are no places to go around here. As her psychiatrist told me a few months ago she’s stuck amd until can unstick hersel he can’t do anything. Sometimes I think she does things to be spiteful too. Especially since she and mom don’t always get along. [/QUOTE]

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