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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 740000" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I dont believe all people on the spectrum can do without help and find a career. There are levels on the spectrum. No two are alike. My son was very able to go ro school and had a little group of friends, but he was not interested in college, has no licensed career although he has always worked and is most comfortable talking about videogames and movies. Norhing could change him .... He is who he is and he is my hero. Talking careers to him is boring and the things neuro typicals find interesting, especially socialuzing on any large scale, is again boring to him. Socializing exhausts him. After seeing people he needs down time by himself in his apartment. The stimuli in the world tires him out. What most people who do not have autism find fun like parties and sports, he is not at all interested in. Too noisy. Too confusing. Too overwhelming. Too boring. He makes online friends too, mostly gaming friends. Many autistics of all functioning levels love videogames. I was told that this is because autistics have narrow interests and tend to have a poor imagination. Videogames help imagine for you. Television as well.</p><p></p><p>My son does work but he also gets SSI and has adult supports. He needs them. There would have been no way to treat him like he had nothing wrong. We pushed him the most we could. At a certain point he would freeze and be unable to perform. He did not talk until he was five and learned normal social skills late. He is still young for his age but he pushes himself. He just has a different idea about what is impotant to him than most neurotypicals.</p><p></p><p>Autism is a broad spectrum. Some adults never learn to speak and need lifelong care and have low IQs, not necessarily all in one person. Some like my son are bright, articulate and can pass for just maybe having ADHD, but he has a limit on how much he can do before he has to ease out. And his goals are not to achieve in the business world. He doesnt care. We love him for who he is. This is a young man with a heart of gold. Everyone loves him.</p><p></p><p>Autism, including high functioning, looks different on each individual. Always a deficit in typical socializing is present. Anxiety is a huge part of autism, but it is worse for some than others.</p><p></p><p>I have no answers. I only know what works for my son. Donna forgot her last name is very high functioning and unusual. More often there are struggles, monetary and work related assistance needed and adult supports required but again they are all different. Very different.</p><p></p><p>Do I think Drew's daughter is on the spectrum? I think a good doagnostician would probably say yes and in her case the anxiety is off the rails. She is afraid to leave the house and that is extreme and needs intervention badly. Trying to change her to the core in my opinion wont work. But I do believe she could learn to leave the house. She may need a case manager to go with her first. That would mean applying for SSI. I think she would qualify. It is not a bad thing to need some help, even as an adult. This helps my son live happily and gainfully in the community, on his own and he has wide acceptance in our small city. His life, he would say, is good!</p><p></p><p>Love and light!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 740000, member: 1550"] I dont believe all people on the spectrum can do without help and find a career. There are levels on the spectrum. No two are alike. My son was very able to go ro school and had a little group of friends, but he was not interested in college, has no licensed career although he has always worked and is most comfortable talking about videogames and movies. Norhing could change him .... He is who he is and he is my hero. Talking careers to him is boring and the things neuro typicals find interesting, especially socialuzing on any large scale, is again boring to him. Socializing exhausts him. After seeing people he needs down time by himself in his apartment. The stimuli in the world tires him out. What most people who do not have autism find fun like parties and sports, he is not at all interested in. Too noisy. Too confusing. Too overwhelming. Too boring. He makes online friends too, mostly gaming friends. Many autistics of all functioning levels love videogames. I was told that this is because autistics have narrow interests and tend to have a poor imagination. Videogames help imagine for you. Television as well. My son does work but he also gets SSI and has adult supports. He needs them. There would have been no way to treat him like he had nothing wrong. We pushed him the most we could. At a certain point he would freeze and be unable to perform. He did not talk until he was five and learned normal social skills late. He is still young for his age but he pushes himself. He just has a different idea about what is impotant to him than most neurotypicals. Autism is a broad spectrum. Some adults never learn to speak and need lifelong care and have low IQs, not necessarily all in one person. Some like my son are bright, articulate and can pass for just maybe having ADHD, but he has a limit on how much he can do before he has to ease out. And his goals are not to achieve in the business world. He doesnt care. We love him for who he is. This is a young man with a heart of gold. Everyone loves him. Autism, including high functioning, looks different on each individual. Always a deficit in typical socializing is present. Anxiety is a huge part of autism, but it is worse for some than others. I have no answers. I only know what works for my son. Donna forgot her last name is very high functioning and unusual. More often there are struggles, monetary and work related assistance needed and adult supports required but again they are all different. Very different. Do I think Drew's daughter is on the spectrum? I think a good doagnostician would probably say yes and in her case the anxiety is off the rails. She is afraid to leave the house and that is extreme and needs intervention badly. Trying to change her to the core in my opinion wont work. But I do believe she could learn to leave the house. She may need a case manager to go with her first. That would mean applying for SSI. I think she would qualify. It is not a bad thing to need some help, even as an adult. This helps my son live happily and gainfully in the community, on his own and he has wide acceptance in our small city. His life, he would say, is good! Love and light! [/QUOTE]
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