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<blockquote data-quote="Smithmom" data-source="post: 740015" data-attributes="member: 23371"><p>I just want to reiterate what Elsi said. You don't want her to suffer from isolation but she has to make an informed choice. She needs to know what's out there and decide what she wants. I know you're trying to show her. But there's sometimes a fine line between showing and pushing. </p><p></p><p>Elsi's point about expanding the limited worlds we all live in are on point. I'll try to offer an explanation of the way I was trained to reach and teach autistic kids. First observe the child to see his/ her choices, interests. Second parallel play at a distance. Third gradually narrow the distance. Fourth insert yourself in a very limited way into the child's play. Fifth increase your involvement in his/ her play until it becomes interactive play. This doesn't apply to your child except in the sense that when trying to reach an autistic child you don't jump into their play or remove them from their game and force them into mainstream class games. </p><p></p><p>For me Elsi made another huge example. I prefer tons of clothes to choose from. Choosing is fun for me and not at all for Elsi. Eating the same thing more than once a month or so is inconceivable to me I don't use recipes as anything more than guidelines. There's no right or wrong. My experience is that as non-aspies we don't think of differences as acceptable except maybe in clothes and food. My autistic kid has played the same series of video games virtually all his life. I don"t understand why he won't try something new. But that's me. He's happy, feels safe, who am I to tell him what should make him happy?</p><p></p><p>But these examples are what you'll find in the books and videos. Your daughter will find them and either recognize herself or not. Either way she's learned something.</p><p></p><p>If it helps any...I have worked with aspies who were removed from mainstream because of behavior. It may take a couple of years but once the world ( family, teachers, etc) around them adapted to them and they understood how to function in the world (home and school) the objectionable behavior ended. I'd also suggest that any future professionals you use be specialists in autism.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Smithmom, post: 740015, member: 23371"] I just want to reiterate what Elsi said. You don't want her to suffer from isolation but she has to make an informed choice. She needs to know what's out there and decide what she wants. I know you're trying to show her. But there's sometimes a fine line between showing and pushing. Elsi's point about expanding the limited worlds we all live in are on point. I'll try to offer an explanation of the way I was trained to reach and teach autistic kids. First observe the child to see his/ her choices, interests. Second parallel play at a distance. Third gradually narrow the distance. Fourth insert yourself in a very limited way into the child's play. Fifth increase your involvement in his/ her play until it becomes interactive play. This doesn't apply to your child except in the sense that when trying to reach an autistic child you don't jump into their play or remove them from their game and force them into mainstream class games. For me Elsi made another huge example. I prefer tons of clothes to choose from. Choosing is fun for me and not at all for Elsi. Eating the same thing more than once a month or so is inconceivable to me I don't use recipes as anything more than guidelines. There's no right or wrong. My experience is that as non-aspies we don't think of differences as acceptable except maybe in clothes and food. My autistic kid has played the same series of video games virtually all his life. I don"t understand why he won't try something new. But that's me. He's happy, feels safe, who am I to tell him what should make him happy? But these examples are what you'll find in the books and videos. Your daughter will find them and either recognize herself or not. Either way she's learned something. If it helps any...I have worked with aspies who were removed from mainstream because of behavior. It may take a couple of years but once the world ( family, teachers, etc) around them adapted to them and they understood how to function in the world (home and school) the objectionable behavior ended. I'd also suggest that any future professionals you use be specialists in autism. [/QUOTE]
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