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<blockquote data-quote="Nature" data-source="post: 740260" data-attributes="member: 19011"><p>I've read all the post since the beginning with interest and can relate somewhat to your situation. Although at this point it's only assumed by knowledgable folks your daughter probably has Aspergers from your description of her behaviours. It could be Depression but both diagnosis are debilitating for the person affected.</p><p></p><p>I like the suggestion from Smithmom regarding designing video games. This is what my partner does and what I would have suggested to you for your daughter to explore as well. A lot of schools teach this but even my partner and his company would not seek a graduate from one of these programs. Rather, they want someone that thinks out of the box and shows up with a portfolio of his/her own. Companies seek those that are DIFFERENT as their games need to be something unique than others. If she's on the computer a lot perhaps get her interested in coding - there are many online sites which teach this. For those with Aspergers it can be a godsend although at one point she would have to approach a company with her portfolio but perhaps by then she will have a sense of accomplishment regarding her work. Anyhow this is just a thought and you may want to bring it up to see if she's possibly interested in this field.</p><p></p><p>My eldest is gifted and has Aspergers was always a confusion to me when he was growing up. He had not been diagnosed during his school years as he is now much older than your daughter and schools weren't as open to a diagnosis as they are now, but I knew he was different. I did project my own sense of what he should be doing vs what he was capable of doing . Hope that makes sense? What I mean is I often thought he was lonely and I encouraged him to go outside and make friends when he was young. I couldn't understand why school was torturous to him when he was gifted and learning came naturally to him...lots of things I didn't understand at the time. It's only when I finally allowed/accepted him to "be himself" did he finally seem much happier.</p><p></p><p>He quit school in the 11th grade and it killed me that he did so as I had been so sure with his intelligence he would have gone on to University. Again, looking back on it now he was not able to handle the crowds. Instead he got a low paying job - a car wash 2 blocks from our home. His boss loved him as he called me once and told me he had never seen an employee like him who refused to take lunch or breaks and he was worried about that. I knew by then it was because my son became stressed entering the staffroom when others were already there. He was at that job for a few years and eventually obtained another job when he felt more confident. At the time I remember feeling so frustrated - again thinking he could accomplish so much more. My son did have two close friends which he met when he was younger but most days would sit at home alone. Again, I think I was thinking he should go out and socialize but in retrospect was projecting my own thoughts onto what I thought would make him happy.</p><p></p><p>Fast forward years later and my son has accomplished much in his life. He never did return to school and never did socialize much. He did save all his paychecks and bank them other than paying me room and board he didn't have many expenses at the time as he rarely went out. In his early 20's he purchased his own bachelor suite with the money he had saved. Led a quiet life going to work and seeing 1-2 friends but mostly chatting to them by phone. He spent a long time on the computer in the evenings. I came to realize he was a success considering his challenges and as a result I changed my mindset that success is individual and it's not the same for everyone. I wish you luck Drew .</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nature, post: 740260, member: 19011"] I've read all the post since the beginning with interest and can relate somewhat to your situation. Although at this point it's only assumed by knowledgable folks your daughter probably has Aspergers from your description of her behaviours. It could be Depression but both diagnosis are debilitating for the person affected. I like the suggestion from Smithmom regarding designing video games. This is what my partner does and what I would have suggested to you for your daughter to explore as well. A lot of schools teach this but even my partner and his company would not seek a graduate from one of these programs. Rather, they want someone that thinks out of the box and shows up with a portfolio of his/her own. Companies seek those that are DIFFERENT as their games need to be something unique than others. If she's on the computer a lot perhaps get her interested in coding - there are many online sites which teach this. For those with Aspergers it can be a godsend although at one point she would have to approach a company with her portfolio but perhaps by then she will have a sense of accomplishment regarding her work. Anyhow this is just a thought and you may want to bring it up to see if she's possibly interested in this field. My eldest is gifted and has Aspergers was always a confusion to me when he was growing up. He had not been diagnosed during his school years as he is now much older than your daughter and schools weren't as open to a diagnosis as they are now, but I knew he was different. I did project my own sense of what he should be doing vs what he was capable of doing . Hope that makes sense? What I mean is I often thought he was lonely and I encouraged him to go outside and make friends when he was young. I couldn't understand why school was torturous to him when he was gifted and learning came naturally to him...lots of things I didn't understand at the time. It's only when I finally allowed/accepted him to "be himself" did he finally seem much happier. He quit school in the 11th grade and it killed me that he did so as I had been so sure with his intelligence he would have gone on to University. Again, looking back on it now he was not able to handle the crowds. Instead he got a low paying job - a car wash 2 blocks from our home. His boss loved him as he called me once and told me he had never seen an employee like him who refused to take lunch or breaks and he was worried about that. I knew by then it was because my son became stressed entering the staffroom when others were already there. He was at that job for a few years and eventually obtained another job when he felt more confident. At the time I remember feeling so frustrated - again thinking he could accomplish so much more. My son did have two close friends which he met when he was younger but most days would sit at home alone. Again, I think I was thinking he should go out and socialize but in retrospect was projecting my own thoughts onto what I thought would make him happy. Fast forward years later and my son has accomplished much in his life. He never did return to school and never did socialize much. He did save all his paychecks and bank them other than paying me room and board he didn't have many expenses at the time as he rarely went out. In his early 20's he purchased his own bachelor suite with the money he had saved. Led a quiet life going to work and seeing 1-2 friends but mostly chatting to them by phone. He spent a long time on the computer in the evenings. I came to realize he was a success considering his challenges and as a result I changed my mindset that success is individual and it's not the same for everyone. I wish you luck Drew . [/QUOTE]
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