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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 676642" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>I was thinking this through the Christmas time and noticed that somehow I had left also those of my family's traditions to go, that I did when kids were young and simply abided hubby's traditions. Hubby's family and the lifestyle they have has always been the big attraction for me. Actually part of what I fell in love in him so that has not been bad actually. But I decided to force some of my traditions too this year.</p><p></p><p>First I told my sons I wanted them home the Sunday night before Christmas and I wanted to play and sing with them. Haven't done that in ages. We actually had a blast. Boys have apparently outgrown the phase there being other kind of musician than playing in rock band or being a rapper was too 'girly.' I think it has been almost a decade when we had that much fun playing together. And Joy's girlfriend seemed to appreciate Joy's playing and singing skills too <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/wink.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":wink:" title="wink :wink:" data-shortname=":wink:" /></p><p></p><p>While the 'main days' and times were out-crowded with hubby's family and their tradition I was able to take some moments to honour my traditions too. It seems losing those was more about me letting them go than anything else. With some concentrated effort I was able to have some of that incorporated to my, and my sons, Christmas again.</p><p></p><p>And those candles I mentioned: First time in the longest time I actually wasn't placing my candles to only dark tombstones. Joy spent his Christmas Eve morning with his girlfriend family and they went to graveyard already at the morning and Joy had actually remembered to take couple candles and visit also my family's graves. He hadn't brought a bagful of them so most of the stones went without when I got there with hubby and Ache, but he had lighten a candle for my grandparents and my mother.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 676642, member: 14557"] I was thinking this through the Christmas time and noticed that somehow I had left also those of my family's traditions to go, that I did when kids were young and simply abided hubby's traditions. Hubby's family and the lifestyle they have has always been the big attraction for me. Actually part of what I fell in love in him so that has not been bad actually. But I decided to force some of my traditions too this year. First I told my sons I wanted them home the Sunday night before Christmas and I wanted to play and sing with them. Haven't done that in ages. We actually had a blast. Boys have apparently outgrown the phase there being other kind of musician than playing in rock band or being a rapper was too 'girly.' I think it has been almost a decade when we had that much fun playing together. And Joy's girlfriend seemed to appreciate Joy's playing and singing skills too :wink: While the 'main days' and times were out-crowded with hubby's family and their tradition I was able to take some moments to honour my traditions too. It seems losing those was more about me letting them go than anything else. With some concentrated effort I was able to have some of that incorporated to my, and my sons, Christmas again. And those candles I mentioned: First time in the longest time I actually wasn't placing my candles to only dark tombstones. Joy spent his Christmas Eve morning with his girlfriend family and they went to graveyard already at the morning and Joy had actually remembered to take couple candles and visit also my family's graves. He hadn't brought a bagful of them so most of the stones went without when I got there with hubby and Ache, but he had lighten a candle for my grandparents and my mother. [/QUOTE]
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