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Being who we are, even if FOO is different and doesn't like it
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 672843" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>This is wise in so many ways. Most of all, she is assuaging her own hurt and lack through the years from her father's harshness and reserve. She is taking responsibility to address and fill the hole. Instead of accusing or attacking him for not being more. She has turned what was a negative into a spiritual practice. </p><p></p><p>How would I have been a happier and better person had I done just this. I am thinking I do not know why about a boss I had maybe 40 years ago. I worked as a bureaucracy functionary. He was a black man, Norman, who was supervisor of the determinations unit in Unemployment Insurance. He was so officious. He was so controlling. He took this tone I think to cover for his <em>not knowing</em>.</p><p></p><p>People like this,<em> in authority, faking through an authoritarian attitude</em> have been my nemesis my whole life. Of course we know why. There must have been two dozen or more bosses that I felt forced to confront or passive-aggressively antagonize and unmask as the petty bullies that they were. </p><p></p><p>Had I chosen a different tack...finding a loving and supporting stance...instance of an adversarial one...I might have found myself there sooner.</p><p></p><p>Wise girl, your daughter, New Leaf.</p><p></p><p>COPA</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 672843, member: 18958"] This is wise in so many ways. Most of all, she is assuaging her own hurt and lack through the years from her father's harshness and reserve. She is taking responsibility to address and fill the hole. Instead of accusing or attacking him for not being more. She has turned what was a negative into a spiritual practice. How would I have been a happier and better person had I done just this. I am thinking I do not know why about a boss I had maybe 40 years ago. I worked as a bureaucracy functionary. He was a black man, Norman, who was supervisor of the determinations unit in Unemployment Insurance. He was so officious. He was so controlling. He took this tone I think to cover for his [I]not knowing[/I]. People like this,[I] in authority, faking through an authoritarian attitude[/I] have been my nemesis my whole life. Of course we know why. There must have been two dozen or more bosses that I felt forced to confront or passive-aggressively antagonize and unmask as the petty bullies that they were. Had I chosen a different tack...finding a loving and supporting stance...instance of an adversarial one...I might have found myself there sooner. Wise girl, your daughter, New Leaf. COPA [/QUOTE]
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