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Being who we are, even if FOO is different and doesn't like it
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 672859" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>That was a beautiful post, and wise, and informative, too. I learned a lot. I will revisit it later but have to go out now.</p><p>This is very good sense. Helping others to learn and to protect the relationship. Her and myself, too. Maybe I should have shared the little iron with her. And kept one. Maybe that is the lesson here. <em><strong>I am still coming from lack with respect to things, as well as love.</strong></em></p><p><em><strong></strong></em></p><p>I need to work on my buying more intensely from this vantage point. My buying fits the definition of a symptom. In psychology, a symptom both gratifies and punishes at the same time. I express my lack and desire to fill it, but punish myself doing so. Financially. My house, filled with junk I do not want or need. A sense of shame that I am out of control.</p><p></p><p>I see my own limits clearly with M's family. With them, it seems like there is one crisis after another. I judge. Never in my life did I believe I was a judgmental person, but I am.</p><p></p><p>I keep seeing how each of them creates their quicksand, I mean, just shovels it in. </p><p></p><p>And M says: We have our own quicksand. <em>And looks around to the house and all of the residue of uncontrolled spending and still I am doing more</em>. And I get his point.</p><p></p><p>COPA</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 672859, member: 18958"] That was a beautiful post, and wise, and informative, too. I learned a lot. I will revisit it later but have to go out now. This is very good sense. Helping others to learn and to protect the relationship. Her and myself, too. Maybe I should have shared the little iron with her. And kept one. Maybe that is the lesson here. [I][B]I am still coming from lack with respect to things, as well as love. [/B][/I] I need to work on my buying more intensely from this vantage point. My buying fits the definition of a symptom. In psychology, a symptom both gratifies and punishes at the same time. I express my lack and desire to fill it, but punish myself doing so. Financially. My house, filled with junk I do not want or need. A sense of shame that I am out of control. I see my own limits clearly with M's family. With them, it seems like there is one crisis after another. I judge. Never in my life did I believe I was a judgmental person, but I am. I keep seeing how each of them creates their quicksand, I mean, just shovels it in. And M says: We have our own quicksand. [I]And looks around to the house and all of the residue of uncontrolled spending and still I am doing more[/I]. And I get his point. COPA [/QUOTE]
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