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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 672879" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>I think I was feeling a bit profound this morning, full of ideas of dragon fly spirit and going deeper. I don't know Copa, I think it is the holidays and trying to feel thankful and in the mean time continuing to search for ways to cope with all that is going on. I am still struggling to get out of the cocoon myself.</p><p>"Kulia i ka nu'u"</p><p>"Strive for the highest"</p><p>I am not there. I want to be. I guess that is part of the answer, the striving for it.</p><p>I am <em>way </em>down the bottom of the mountain. </p><p></p><p>The wisdom is not mine, it is what I have learned from you and Cedar, and so many folks here. </p><p>Feeling, where is Feeling? I hope you are okay Feeling, I worry when you do not post.</p><p> Aren't we all lacking? Who can love with the purity of the greats? I am lacking as well, struggling from day to day, even moment to moment.</p><p> Who is ever in control? I am in the doldrums sitting here clicking away on my computer when I need to get up and clean my house. I stayed home today, my stomach has been giving me problems.</p><p>I think I am exhibiting physically, what I refuse to admit, that the weight of everything takes a heavy toll on me. Trying to be strong, yet not achieving it. Searching within myself through posting.</p><p></p><p>I hope I am not coming off as pompous, I am sorry if I do. I have not reached the goal, far from it.</p><p> Copa, how can we reach having good judgement about people, things, situations, without first being judgmental? It is a fine line. When the hubs cousins have parties, they lock away their possessions, knowing that some of the family coming, steal things. Do they not have to judge first, in order to do so, to take steps to protect their belongings?</p><p></p><p>I had to look up what Frankl was talking about</p><p>Idealism vs Realism</p><p>Idealism-any of various systems of thought in which the objects of knowledge are held to be in some way dependent on the activity of mind.</p><p>Realism-the attitude or practice of accepting a situation as it is and being prepared to deal with it accordingly.</p><p> Is realism the "it is what it is" and idealism, "if I think this, then it can become something else?"</p><p></p><p>Realism, I see this with Hubs and my family. Shoveling. Older cousins in their mid 70's, housing their adult </p><p>d cs- drug using in their 50's. I see this and say to myself "I do not want this for my future as an elderly parent." They are probably looking at us and saying "How can you turn your daughter away?" Huh.</p><p> We all have our own quicksand. Some days I find myself sinking in it, others I seem to be coming out of it, heading towards solid ground.</p><p>This morning, feeling giddy and light with Frankls elegance and intelligence, saying to myself, "Yes this is it, this is my answer to my troubles with Attilla, my d cs, my attitude towards them."</p><p></p><p>It is much more difficult to put to practice.</p><p></p><p>This evening, feeling as if I have overstepped in even posting my thoughts here and in the SU forum. </p><p>I do not want to be a hypocrite. I am trying desperately to find a meaning to all of this.</p><p></p><p>I do want to reach the point where I do not struggle daily with my thoughts and feelings, the yin and yang of it. But I still do. I still have to say quick prayers and reminders to myself to keep my head up out of the quicksand of it all.</p><p></p><p>I do try my best to keep the devastation of what has happened to my d cs in the back of my mind, trying desperately not to go down the path with them. </p><p></p><p>Aspiring to find my own way, trying to have a joy filled existence despite it all.</p><p></p><p>Life is complicated. Is it because I make it so?</p><p>Some moments it feels simple.</p><p>Some moments not so simple.</p><p></p><p>leafy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 672879, member: 19522"] I think I was feeling a bit profound this morning, full of ideas of dragon fly spirit and going deeper. I don't know Copa, I think it is the holidays and trying to feel thankful and in the mean time continuing to search for ways to cope with all that is going on. I am still struggling to get out of the cocoon myself. "Kulia i ka nu'u" "Strive for the highest" I am not there. I want to be. I guess that is part of the answer, the striving for it. I am [I]way [/I]down the bottom of the mountain. The wisdom is not mine, it is what I have learned from you and Cedar, and so many folks here. Feeling, where is Feeling? I hope you are okay Feeling, I worry when you do not post. Aren't we all lacking? Who can love with the purity of the greats? I am lacking as well, struggling from day to day, even moment to moment. Who is ever in control? I am in the doldrums sitting here clicking away on my computer when I need to get up and clean my house. I stayed home today, my stomach has been giving me problems. I think I am exhibiting physically, what I refuse to admit, that the weight of everything takes a heavy toll on me. Trying to be strong, yet not achieving it. Searching within myself through posting. I hope I am not coming off as pompous, I am sorry if I do. I have not reached the goal, far from it. Copa, how can we reach having good judgement about people, things, situations, without first being judgmental? It is a fine line. When the hubs cousins have parties, they lock away their possessions, knowing that some of the family coming, steal things. Do they not have to judge first, in order to do so, to take steps to protect their belongings? I had to look up what Frankl was talking about Idealism vs Realism Idealism-any of various systems of thought in which the objects of knowledge are held to be in some way dependent on the activity of mind. Realism-the attitude or practice of accepting a situation as it is and being prepared to deal with it accordingly. Is realism the "it is what it is" and idealism, "if I think this, then it can become something else?" Realism, I see this with Hubs and my family. Shoveling. Older cousins in their mid 70's, housing their adult d cs- drug using in their 50's. I see this and say to myself "I do not want this for my future as an elderly parent." They are probably looking at us and saying "How can you turn your daughter away?" Huh. We all have our own quicksand. Some days I find myself sinking in it, others I seem to be coming out of it, heading towards solid ground. This morning, feeling giddy and light with Frankls elegance and intelligence, saying to myself, "Yes this is it, this is my answer to my troubles with Attilla, my d cs, my attitude towards them." It is much more difficult to put to practice. This evening, feeling as if I have overstepped in even posting my thoughts here and in the SU forum. I do not want to be a hypocrite. I am trying desperately to find a meaning to all of this. I do want to reach the point where I do not struggle daily with my thoughts and feelings, the yin and yang of it. But I still do. I still have to say quick prayers and reminders to myself to keep my head up out of the quicksand of it all. I do try my best to keep the devastation of what has happened to my d cs in the back of my mind, trying desperately not to go down the path with them. Aspiring to find my own way, trying to have a joy filled existence despite it all. Life is complicated. Is it because I make it so? Some moments it feels simple. Some moments not so simple. leafy [/QUOTE]
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