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Best gift we can ever give our DCs: The gift of detachment with love
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<blockquote data-quote="Carolita2" data-source="post: 673529" data-attributes="member: 19632"><p>Happy Thanksgiving all. I love this thread..Because the gift of detachment works best if done with love for both parties. If detachment is done without love, it is something more like abandonment. It says I don't care..if done with love it says, I cannot do for you what you must do for yourself..but I am rooting for you that you will do it and that I believe you can do it if you choose to...I am still here waiting, love that, because I know I will be waiting forever if that's what it takes. .Tell me what you see as your options...I do not dictate your options, unless you ask me what some may be...I am not driving your train, you are..But I care..I think the danger here can be if we let them in our hearts we fear we will lose our boundaries so painstakingly set..Not necessarily so but it requires thinking weighing, not reacting quickly, taking time to share with our friends what the best course of action is. It's not black and white thinking but rather grey..and each situation requires a different response..</p><p>My twork cents. Thanks COM for starting this,healing discussion..xoCarolita</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Carolita2, post: 673529, member: 19632"] Happy Thanksgiving all. I love this thread..Because the gift of detachment works best if done with love for both parties. If detachment is done without love, it is something more like abandonment. It says I don't care..if done with love it says, I cannot do for you what you must do for yourself..but I am rooting for you that you will do it and that I believe you can do it if you choose to...I am still here waiting, love that, because I know I will be waiting forever if that's what it takes. .Tell me what you see as your options...I do not dictate your options, unless you ask me what some may be...I am not driving your train, you are..But I care..I think the danger here can be if we let them in our hearts we fear we will lose our boundaries so painstakingly set..Not necessarily so but it requires thinking weighing, not reacting quickly, taking time to share with our friends what the best course of action is. It's not black and white thinking but rather grey..and each situation requires a different response.. My twork cents. Thanks COM for starting this,healing discussion..xoCarolita [/QUOTE]
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