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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 704619" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>There is nothing, it seems, that YOU can do anymore, except call 911 if he makes suicidal statements, and to be a loving mother to him, in the ways that he permits. By that, I mean, he does not permit you to be a loving mother, if he attempts to manipulate you through fear and guilt. He is not permitting you to be a loving mother if he is in a drugged state in your presence. He is not permitting you to be a loving mother if he accuses you and harasses you by constant texts or phone calls.</p><p></p><p>These are his choices over which you have no control or responsibility. The only thing any one of us can do is to draw a line, to protect ourselves, and try to live well, so as to feel valuable and worthy and useful, with full lives. That is where you are now: Deciding what you need and must do to not feel that he controls you, that your center of gravity is not completely dependent upon him, what he says and what he does.</p><p></p><p>Almost every one of us that posts on CD has been in your place, and most still are, sometimes, or all of the time.</p><p></p><p>I hope you keep posting. You will find your strength here, if you keep posting.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 704619, member: 18958"] There is nothing, it seems, that YOU can do anymore, except call 911 if he makes suicidal statements, and to be a loving mother to him, in the ways that he permits. By that, I mean, he does not permit you to be a loving mother, if he attempts to manipulate you through fear and guilt. He is not permitting you to be a loving mother if he is in a drugged state in your presence. He is not permitting you to be a loving mother if he accuses you and harasses you by constant texts or phone calls. These are his choices over which you have no control or responsibility. The only thing any one of us can do is to draw a line, to protect ourselves, and try to live well, so as to feel valuable and worthy and useful, with full lives. That is where you are now: Deciding what you need and must do to not feel that he controls you, that your center of gravity is not completely dependent upon him, what he says and what he does. Almost every one of us that posts on CD has been in your place, and most still are, sometimes, or all of the time. I hope you keep posting. You will find your strength here, if you keep posting. [/QUOTE]
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