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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 258702" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>As an after thought? I advocated for the SD to PAY for an entire day shadow. He was a bad fit. Dude can be a jealous person and figured that this man would only show interest in him. When he began to speak to the other kids in the class about sports it set a divide between him and the shadow - Dude hates sports. So that wasn't helpful. </p><p> </p><p>This man also was supposed to SEE a boiling pot and take it off the stove. He liked doing that - but when they got outside instead of talking Dude down from boiling - this man used it as an opportunity to make calls on his cell phone. By the time we got around to getting him replaced? The school year had almost ended - BUT the teacher invited him back but as ANOTHER kids student shadow - WHAT a slap in the face. 8th grade stunk for Dude. And oddly enough when the man was someone elses shadow he didn't talk to Dude like he did the other kids when he was Dude's shadow. </p><p></p><p>My point in all this is - make sure if you get your kids a shadow that their personalities and interests match because sending someone that the kids don't click with? Cause more harm than good. </p><p> </p><p>BUT - the out I spoke about for Dude? When it got SO bad in class that he couldn't take the noise et al? He was allowed to grab the hall pass and be escorted out of the class. We went from 5 times a day - which was WAY more than we KNEW he needed - but he took advantage of them and it's what we wanted because when he went to 3 times a day? (Which is what he could do to begin with) HE WAS PRAISED lavishly for his accomplishment in getting it under 3 times a day. He thought he outsmarted us - we KNEW we outsmarted him - but the point remains - he got the love. lol. Some days that's just all they need - a little love and understanding. Other days? You have to wonder if human possession occurs. </p><p> </p><p>Take care - sounds like you have it well in hand.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 258702, member: 4964"] As an after thought? I advocated for the SD to PAY for an entire day shadow. He was a bad fit. Dude can be a jealous person and figured that this man would only show interest in him. When he began to speak to the other kids in the class about sports it set a divide between him and the shadow - Dude hates sports. So that wasn't helpful. This man also was supposed to SEE a boiling pot and take it off the stove. He liked doing that - but when they got outside instead of talking Dude down from boiling - this man used it as an opportunity to make calls on his cell phone. By the time we got around to getting him replaced? The school year had almost ended - BUT the teacher invited him back but as ANOTHER kids student shadow - WHAT a slap in the face. 8th grade stunk for Dude. And oddly enough when the man was someone elses shadow he didn't talk to Dude like he did the other kids when he was Dude's shadow. My point in all this is - make sure if you get your kids a shadow that their personalities and interests match because sending someone that the kids don't click with? Cause more harm than good. BUT - the out I spoke about for Dude? When it got SO bad in class that he couldn't take the noise et al? He was allowed to grab the hall pass and be escorted out of the class. We went from 5 times a day - which was WAY more than we KNEW he needed - but he took advantage of them and it's what we wanted because when he went to 3 times a day? (Which is what he could do to begin with) HE WAS PRAISED lavishly for his accomplishment in getting it under 3 times a day. He thought he outsmarted us - we KNEW we outsmarted him - but the point remains - he got the love. lol. Some days that's just all they need - a little love and understanding. Other days? You have to wonder if human possession occurs. Take care - sounds like you have it well in hand. [/QUOTE]
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