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BiPolar (BP)/ADHD Daughter pregnant again and soon homeless At 18
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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 416150" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>HI, </p><p> </p><p>Welcome to the board! Sounds like you have already been through so much and have three children in your house that by your own admission have suffered enough. I know that there will be some hard decisions to make in the future for your daughter and her child, and not to sound hard or cold, but with three other children at home that haven't even had their chance at a future? I think my efforts would be for them at this time. Not because you don't have love for your first Grandchild or a possible second. You tried it before, it was and is ridiculously hard even with the best of supports in place - and things didn't go well. </p><p> </p><p>I feel the best thing for you and the three children you have at home would be for them to get into therapy to deal with the fallout that your daughter has left you with, and continue with that path towards mental wellness. These kids put an enormous burden on our hearts, our minds and our other children who normally don't say much - they just fail. Sometimes it's very helpful to have someone to talk to that can work with them and help them with their anger about the situation and in turn help you with your anger. Heck who wouldn't be angry? I'd be spittin nails. (mostly at baby daddy and the health dept for NOT putting in a NORPLANT) duh. </p><p> </p><p>I'm so sorry ya'll are suffering this - but I think the more difficult your babymachine sees that dealing with actually HAVING to deal with her kids is? The less likely she is to keep putting em out. (one could hope) The more you step in to save them? The easier she sees things - If DSS or CSP gets called - maybe by the time it would ever get to that point? You would be in a better place. </p><p> </p><p>Talk to HoundDog and Janet - here - they are going through VERY similar things and are trying to tough love it now - and have very good opposing views of what happens when. Maybe you'll get a good idea of life as you see it - would be </p><p> </p><p>Hugs and welcome - </p><p>ps - as far as the therapy? It's free at the county mental health center - I oughta know - many many years...until I got insurance. lol. </p><p> </p><p>(but I have WONDERFUL son) a wonderful - he's fantastic.......yeah <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/mobile1.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":mobile1:" title="mobile1 :mobile1:" data-shortname=":mobile1:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 416150, member: 4964"] HI, Welcome to the board! Sounds like you have already been through so much and have three children in your house that by your own admission have suffered enough. I know that there will be some hard decisions to make in the future for your daughter and her child, and not to sound hard or cold, but with three other children at home that haven't even had their chance at a future? I think my efforts would be for them at this time. Not because you don't have love for your first Grandchild or a possible second. You tried it before, it was and is ridiculously hard even with the best of supports in place - and things didn't go well. I feel the best thing for you and the three children you have at home would be for them to get into therapy to deal with the fallout that your daughter has left you with, and continue with that path towards mental wellness. These kids put an enormous burden on our hearts, our minds and our other children who normally don't say much - they just fail. Sometimes it's very helpful to have someone to talk to that can work with them and help them with their anger about the situation and in turn help you with your anger. Heck who wouldn't be angry? I'd be spittin nails. (mostly at baby daddy and the health dept for NOT putting in a NORPLANT) duh. I'm so sorry ya'll are suffering this - but I think the more difficult your babymachine sees that dealing with actually HAVING to deal with her kids is? The less likely she is to keep putting em out. (one could hope) The more you step in to save them? The easier she sees things - If DSS or CSP gets called - maybe by the time it would ever get to that point? You would be in a better place. Talk to HoundDog and Janet - here - they are going through VERY similar things and are trying to tough love it now - and have very good opposing views of what happens when. Maybe you'll get a good idea of life as you see it - would be Hugs and welcome - ps - as far as the therapy? It's free at the county mental health center - I oughta know - many many years...until I got insurance. lol. (but I have WONDERFUL son) a wonderful - he's fantastic.......yeah :mobile1: [/QUOTE]
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