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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 750125" data-attributes="member: 4152"><p>I got confused. Does she want to see a different counselor?</p><p>Maybe reviewing some things in her childhood brought up some sad memories. Additionally, it’s very convenient to blame mom and dad when things aren’t going to your liking. Having those fresh memories makes that very convenient. </p><p>This behavior is a little more like a 16-18 year old, but we all develop at different rates. </p><p>I think it’s ok to set some boundaries. Maybe no going to the cabin next trip. However, she can go on future trips after that if she is willing to follow certain rules. What is most important to you? </p><p>It probably wouldn’t be fair or reasonable to rattle off a huge list. </p><p>Are you paying for her cell phone and room and board? </p><p>If so, that alone, is reason for her to be respectful. </p><p>Our son was at home at age 19 and thought nothing of using the “F” word for awhile. I started fining him a $1 every time. He said he was going to move out. I said that this was his choice, but it seemed much cheaper to stop cussing than get his own apartment. He was upset, but stopped using the “F” word. </p><p>Boundaries were super hard to implement, but it ended up helping. </p><p>I wouldn’t worry at all if she is not speaking with you, as long as she stays within her boundaries. </p><p>My advice...Be polite, caring...but set boundaries. You can not control her anyway. </p><p>Take care of yourself. Enjoy life as best as you can even with this craziness going on.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 750125, member: 4152"] I got confused. Does she want to see a different counselor? Maybe reviewing some things in her childhood brought up some sad memories. Additionally, it’s very convenient to blame mom and dad when things aren’t going to your liking. Having those fresh memories makes that very convenient. This behavior is a little more like a 16-18 year old, but we all develop at different rates. I think it’s ok to set some boundaries. Maybe no going to the cabin next trip. However, she can go on future trips after that if she is willing to follow certain rules. What is most important to you? It probably wouldn’t be fair or reasonable to rattle off a huge list. Are you paying for her cell phone and room and board? If so, that alone, is reason for her to be respectful. Our son was at home at age 19 and thought nothing of using the “F” word for awhile. I started fining him a $1 every time. He said he was going to move out. I said that this was his choice, but it seemed much cheaper to stop cussing than get his own apartment. He was upset, but stopped using the “F” word. Boundaries were super hard to implement, but it ended up helping. I wouldn’t worry at all if she is not speaking with you, as long as she stays within her boundaries. My advice...Be polite, caring...but set boundaries. You can not control her anyway. Take care of yourself. Enjoy life as best as you can even with this craziness going on. [/QUOTE]
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