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<blockquote data-quote="ediwiz" data-source="post: 26882" data-attributes="member: 123"><p>My daughter was unofficially diagonosed with Borderline at 12. We were told that she was too young to officially be given that diagnosis. She started showing symptoms at 2. We were told that we had a "strong willed" child. LOL By 9 she was confounding us. Her rages could no longer be contained in a hold, timeouts never worked and I resorted to having my (then) teenage son stand behind me when I would escort difficult child upstairs to her room so that when she tried to headbutt me down the stairs I wouldn't get hurt. We couldn't go out, school and I knew each other intimately due to the "lovely" reports that difficult child would tell people about her home life. CPS would go through a cursery evaluation and apologize for having to put us through it. difficult child was not physically or sexually abused, was given every opportunity that the easy child's were given. She is our natural child. She had her own room, although eventually I did remove most of the furniture due to destructive behavior. She would tell people that we lived in a ghetto... LOL We lived in an old house near some apartments with some very nice and some very not so nice people. My husband had gotten a new job and the house we were living in sold, so I had about 3 weeks to find something, pack and move. </p><p></p><p>At 14 she was officially diagnosed with Borderline (BPD) (Borderline). She spent almost a year in an Residential Treatment Center (RTC). It was great, they taught her about physical boundaries, which she had no concept of. They also worked with her on social cues, again, she was totally clueless. Unfortunately they only started working with her on other types of boundaries before the SW told us either she gets transitioned out or we would have to TPR. Found out later that was a load of doo-doo. :rolleyes:</p><p></p><p>At 18 I had her re-evaluated by a neuro-psychiatric. She confirmed the diagnosis and told me that when I look up Borderline (BPD) difficult child's picture is there, then apologized to me for having to live with a Borderline (BPD) who was also a teenager. I was relieved that someone actually understood what difficult child was like to live with. difficult child refuses to do DBT, we started when she was 12, but her therapist fired her for non-compliance. He's a friend and difficult child loved him, but he warned her that if she did not work the program, he would stop seeing her. She didn't buy it until it was too late. He stuck to his guns. Her current therapist has tried to work with her on DBT, but difficult child is still resistant. </p><p></p><p>Latest difficult child thing was shaving her head and telling people that she had stage 3 cancer and was receiving chemo. Arghhh! :grrr: Of course she told us that she had lost a bet. Luckily for us difficult child has decided that she is gay so I don't have to worry about her getting pregnant anytime soon. difficult child goes to a private all girls college and does quite well. I still get phone calls at 3 am with all the drama. I'm her mom, not her friends, I really don't care who is mad at whom and who is dating.</p><p></p><p>We have been told that she will never out grow this. She will be able to learn to manage it better if she chooses to. We were also told that we did everything right and we did not "cause" her to have Borderline (BPD) (well except the genetic part). We were told that her brain is "wired differently". Duh, could have told them that when she was 2 and was going through the terrific two's. (I have video LOL) :rofl:</p><p></p><p>Sherry</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ediwiz, post: 26882, member: 123"] My daughter was unofficially diagonosed with Borderline at 12. We were told that she was too young to officially be given that diagnosis. She started showing symptoms at 2. We were told that we had a "strong willed" child. LOL By 9 she was confounding us. Her rages could no longer be contained in a hold, timeouts never worked and I resorted to having my (then) teenage son stand behind me when I would escort difficult child upstairs to her room so that when she tried to headbutt me down the stairs I wouldn't get hurt. We couldn't go out, school and I knew each other intimately due to the "lovely" reports that difficult child would tell people about her home life. CPS would go through a cursery evaluation and apologize for having to put us through it. difficult child was not physically or sexually abused, was given every opportunity that the easy child's were given. She is our natural child. She had her own room, although eventually I did remove most of the furniture due to destructive behavior. She would tell people that we lived in a ghetto... LOL We lived in an old house near some apartments with some very nice and some very not so nice people. My husband had gotten a new job and the house we were living in sold, so I had about 3 weeks to find something, pack and move. At 14 she was officially diagnosed with Borderline (BPD) (Borderline). She spent almost a year in an Residential Treatment Center (RTC). It was great, they taught her about physical boundaries, which she had no concept of. They also worked with her on social cues, again, she was totally clueless. Unfortunately they only started working with her on other types of boundaries before the SW told us either she gets transitioned out or we would have to TPR. Found out later that was a load of doo-doo. [img]:rolleyes:[/img] At 18 I had her re-evaluated by a neuro-psychiatric. She confirmed the diagnosis and told me that when I look up Borderline (BPD) difficult child's picture is there, then apologized to me for having to live with a Borderline (BPD) who was also a teenager. I was relieved that someone actually understood what difficult child was like to live with. difficult child refuses to do DBT, we started when she was 12, but her therapist fired her for non-compliance. He's a friend and difficult child loved him, but he warned her that if she did not work the program, he would stop seeing her. She didn't buy it until it was too late. He stuck to his guns. Her current therapist has tried to work with her on DBT, but difficult child is still resistant. Latest difficult child thing was shaving her head and telling people that she had stage 3 cancer and was receiving chemo. Arghhh! [img]:grrr:[/img] Of course she told us that she had lost a bet. Luckily for us difficult child has decided that she is gay so I don't have to worry about her getting pregnant anytime soon. difficult child goes to a private all girls college and does quite well. I still get phone calls at 3 am with all the drama. I'm her mom, not her friends, I really don't care who is mad at whom and who is dating. We have been told that she will never out grow this. She will be able to learn to manage it better if she chooses to. We were also told that we did everything right and we did not "cause" her to have Borderline (BPD) (well except the genetic part). We were told that her brain is "wired differently". Duh, could have told them that when she was 2 and was going through the terrific two's. (I have video LOL) [img]:rofl:[/img] Sherry [/QUOTE]
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