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<blockquote data-quote="Hopeful97" data-source="post: 672460" data-attributes="member: 19678"><p>We thought our son had a chance to move 12 hours away. We talked to the family taking him. My son had basically had no winter clothes. I talked to the mom and she confirmed that my son was going with them and she is going to get my son enrolled in ged classes and she thinks she has a job for him when they get to the state where they are going. They have been leaving for a week now, beginning to wonder what the real story is. My son is 18. I do not know what he did with the clothes he had when he left almost over 2 months ago. Since this story seemed litigate we beliebe because we talked to the family taking him ro try to help him. We helped our son bought him some winter clothes, socks underwear, jeans, hoodies, winter coat etc..a phone and paid for 1st month of service. I wanted him to be able to call, but he will be responsible for continuing to pay his bill. </p><p> If he does not pay every month he loses connection. I realize now I probably did way to much and it is not going to happen again, I believe it is just enabling. I know he is supposed to be moving. I wanted him to have a phone. He is allegedly moving 12 hours away and I am praying it happens and is a positive change for him I believe if nothing else it will give him some kind of wake up call that he needs help and that his family loves him (which I think he knows). I am now fèelimg like maybe we did to much. I wamted to mkae sire he could call is. The guilt comes in to probably because I helped him out with clothe's another duffle bag, food, phone and 1st month service, and 2 gift cards. He was supposed to leave with this family Tuesday and it has not happened as far as we know. I am feeling guilty and shameful for all I did. My mom and sister said you were trying to help because you thought he was going to have a fresh start and we all thought that but are now having our doubts. I have learned from this and if it does not happen I just have to not answer his calls and eventually tell him I cannot help him ànymore until there is proof he is gettimg help, has get and or steady job maybe not even then it depends on the circumstances I guses and what this family tells me I have the moms phone number and she said she will keep in touch. Only time will tell. Me and and my family believe this woube a great opportunity for my son, bur who really knows. He this would really, really be a good opportunity for him to realize he needs help. I pray it is not abother good con. I continue to try not to beat myself up for helping 1 last time until I see definite change and that I believe is going to take time if ever. So I keep praying and talking to all of you. You have such wise words and bring a type of comfort it is hard to explain. I am also trying not to look at my son's Facebook page really hard it know of reassures me he is still alive. Feeling numb and can't really explain more than just numb - it is how I read some others feel and that is the closest I can come to describing it, I guess it is sort of a protective mode. Now allegedly they are leaving today, he is going to let me know when they are on this 12 hour journey. I am trying to put it out of my mind but it is hard I worry so much. Thank God for my faith.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hopeful97, post: 672460, member: 19678"] We thought our son had a chance to move 12 hours away. We talked to the family taking him. My son had basically had no winter clothes. I talked to the mom and she confirmed that my son was going with them and she is going to get my son enrolled in ged classes and she thinks she has a job for him when they get to the state where they are going. They have been leaving for a week now, beginning to wonder what the real story is. My son is 18. I do not know what he did with the clothes he had when he left almost over 2 months ago. Since this story seemed litigate we beliebe because we talked to the family taking him ro try to help him. We helped our son bought him some winter clothes, socks underwear, jeans, hoodies, winter coat etc..a phone and paid for 1st month of service. I wanted him to be able to call, but he will be responsible for continuing to pay his bill. If he does not pay every month he loses connection. I realize now I probably did way to much and it is not going to happen again, I believe it is just enabling. I know he is supposed to be moving. I wanted him to have a phone. He is allegedly moving 12 hours away and I am praying it happens and is a positive change for him I believe if nothing else it will give him some kind of wake up call that he needs help and that his family loves him (which I think he knows). I am now fèelimg like maybe we did to much. I wamted to mkae sire he could call is. The guilt comes in to probably because I helped him out with clothe's another duffle bag, food, phone and 1st month service, and 2 gift cards. He was supposed to leave with this family Tuesday and it has not happened as far as we know. I am feeling guilty and shameful for all I did. My mom and sister said you were trying to help because you thought he was going to have a fresh start and we all thought that but are now having our doubts. I have learned from this and if it does not happen I just have to not answer his calls and eventually tell him I cannot help him ànymore until there is proof he is gettimg help, has get and or steady job maybe not even then it depends on the circumstances I guses and what this family tells me I have the moms phone number and she said she will keep in touch. Only time will tell. Me and and my family believe this woube a great opportunity for my son, bur who really knows. He this would really, really be a good opportunity for him to realize he needs help. I pray it is not abother good con. I continue to try not to beat myself up for helping 1 last time until I see definite change and that I believe is going to take time if ever. So I keep praying and talking to all of you. You have such wise words and bring a type of comfort it is hard to explain. I am also trying not to look at my son's Facebook page really hard it know of reassures me he is still alive. Feeling numb and can't really explain more than just numb - it is how I read some others feel and that is the closest I can come to describing it, I guess it is sort of a protective mode. Now allegedly they are leaving today, he is going to let me know when they are on this 12 hour journey. I am trying to put it out of my mind but it is hard I worry so much. Thank God for my faith. [/QUOTE]
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