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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 563767" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>PG I have to admit a lot of things don't add up to me but I really really want to be supportive of you and the last thing I want to do is driv eyou away from posting here because we all care about you and I would be very upset if you didn't feel that we understood or supported you.</p><p></p><p>PG, therer are so many glaring things here that make me go hmmm. If she was being tracked or followed she would certainly not want to continue using that phone. Her threat to stop communicating with you and pretending like she never got sober so that you won't worry is very difficult to understand. She knows you are worrying anyway and wouldn't it be convenient if you took her for a drug test and she was positive just to say she did it to make you stop worrying. The fact that she will not trust ANY law enforcement agency makes no sense. Although there may be some bad cops they are not all bad and they are not all in a conspiracy with the DEA and FBI and DA. She is 19 years old and should be scared out of her wits if there was a drug cartel following her and demanding money. If she was clean and sober she wouldn't care who she told as long as there was some reasonable expectation of security. </p><p></p><p>Every attempt you have made to help her has been met with resistance. What if you offered to give her 20k? I bet she would take it. She can't give up her phone number because I assume she is trying to raise 20k from her contacts. Doesn't that tell you she is doing something illegal? She won't meet you anywhere because she is afraid for your safety. I wonder if she doesn't want to meet you because you will see what the real story is.</p><p></p><p>When you step back and look at everything from afar it all sounds so far fetched. In my gut I don't thing there is a drug cartel at all. Who are these people that are protecting her? Are they drug addicts too? Are they running from the cartel also? What are her plans? How is she trying to raise this money or does she plan on paying them back at all? She went from having no contact with you at all before going into the sober house to now being so concerned for your safety that she will not let you help her. It makes no sense. Just because an addict stops using they don't stop lying and sneaking. Many of those behaviors take years to change.</p><p></p><p>And the big question of all....is she willing to meet you at a lab and have a drug test done today?</p><p></p><p>Please know I say these things out of a great deal of concern for you and because I have been around drug addicts long enough to know that they just cannot be trusted. I am so worried that you are setting yourself up for a huge fall.</p><p></p><p>Of course I am not in this situation so it is easy to say what I would do but I'm going to anyway. I would have a very hard time not screaming from the rooftops that a drug cartel was after my finally recovered addict daughter who is now trying to get her life in order but is being chased by these goons and our government/law enforcement officers have got to go after this cartel and protect my daughter or I am going to every newspaper in the country with my story. Of course I once blocked the drive of a drug house my difficult child was in until the police came and although they were a far cry from a drug cartel I was ready to fight them with my bare hands if necessary.</p><p></p><p>I understand you are very torn but I believe in your heart you are asking the kind of questions you need to in order to sort this out. </p><p></p><p>As always I care about you as a member of our family here and recognize that neither alternative is a good one.</p><p></p><p>Nancy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 563767, member: 59"] PG I have to admit a lot of things don't add up to me but I really really want to be supportive of you and the last thing I want to do is driv eyou away from posting here because we all care about you and I would be very upset if you didn't feel that we understood or supported you. PG, therer are so many glaring things here that make me go hmmm. If she was being tracked or followed she would certainly not want to continue using that phone. Her threat to stop communicating with you and pretending like she never got sober so that you won't worry is very difficult to understand. She knows you are worrying anyway and wouldn't it be convenient if you took her for a drug test and she was positive just to say she did it to make you stop worrying. The fact that she will not trust ANY law enforcement agency makes no sense. Although there may be some bad cops they are not all bad and they are not all in a conspiracy with the DEA and FBI and DA. She is 19 years old and should be scared out of her wits if there was a drug cartel following her and demanding money. If she was clean and sober she wouldn't care who she told as long as there was some reasonable expectation of security. Every attempt you have made to help her has been met with resistance. What if you offered to give her 20k? I bet she would take it. She can't give up her phone number because I assume she is trying to raise 20k from her contacts. Doesn't that tell you she is doing something illegal? She won't meet you anywhere because she is afraid for your safety. I wonder if she doesn't want to meet you because you will see what the real story is. When you step back and look at everything from afar it all sounds so far fetched. In my gut I don't thing there is a drug cartel at all. Who are these people that are protecting her? Are they drug addicts too? Are they running from the cartel also? What are her plans? How is she trying to raise this money or does she plan on paying them back at all? She went from having no contact with you at all before going into the sober house to now being so concerned for your safety that she will not let you help her. It makes no sense. Just because an addict stops using they don't stop lying and sneaking. Many of those behaviors take years to change. And the big question of all....is she willing to meet you at a lab and have a drug test done today? Please know I say these things out of a great deal of concern for you and because I have been around drug addicts long enough to know that they just cannot be trusted. I am so worried that you are setting yourself up for a huge fall. Of course I am not in this situation so it is easy to say what I would do but I'm going to anyway. I would have a very hard time not screaming from the rooftops that a drug cartel was after my finally recovered addict daughter who is now trying to get her life in order but is being chased by these goons and our government/law enforcement officers have got to go after this cartel and protect my daughter or I am going to every newspaper in the country with my story. Of course I once blocked the drive of a drug house my difficult child was in until the police came and although they were a far cry from a drug cartel I was ready to fight them with my bare hands if necessary. I understand you are very torn but I believe in your heart you are asking the kind of questions you need to in order to sort this out. As always I care about you as a member of our family here and recognize that neither alternative is a good one. Nancy [/QUOTE]
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