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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 617861" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>Detachment feels like letting go of guilty, terminal, unending, responsibility. It feels like understanding there is a way to retake control of my own life, and that I will get there. To do that, to be able to let go of responsibility, I am learning to accept myself as a mother whose children are not doing well. </p><p></p><p>I don't know how to do that.</p><p></p><p>That is the source of my continued enabling, of my depression. Who am I, what kind of mother, of person, of grandmother, am I, when my family looks nothing like what I wanted and worked for. </p><p></p><p>What happened here is the question that keeps me hooked in. If I could find it I could fix it. I need to learn to let go, and I don't know how to do that, either. </p><p></p><p>I am still not sure how to get out of this trap, how to learn to see myself as separate and okay when everything I believe about separate and okay has to do with family. It is so hard to stay present in the face of what happens. </p><p></p><p>It has to do with seeing the kids as adults. </p><p></p><p>There is an excellent post on the detachment thread this morning. That mom has it down clearly enough that she can communicate it to us.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 617861, member: 17461"] Detachment feels like letting go of guilty, terminal, unending, responsibility. It feels like understanding there is a way to retake control of my own life, and that I will get there. To do that, to be able to let go of responsibility, I am learning to accept myself as a mother whose children are not doing well. I don't know how to do that. That is the source of my continued enabling, of my depression. Who am I, what kind of mother, of person, of grandmother, am I, when my family looks nothing like what I wanted and worked for. What happened here is the question that keeps me hooked in. If I could find it I could fix it. I need to learn to let go, and I don't know how to do that, either. I am still not sure how to get out of this trap, how to learn to see myself as separate and okay when everything I believe about separate and okay has to do with family. It is so hard to stay present in the face of what happens. It has to do with seeing the kids as adults. There is an excellent post on the detachment thread this morning. That mom has it down clearly enough that she can communicate it to us. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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