Our "line in the sand" is drawn at physical violence to self or others. If our difficult child crosses that line, I call 911 and ask for a medical transport to ER to evaluation. This is part of our crisis plan that therapist and psychiatrist and our County Mental health have helped us put together. I do not accept violent behavior, end of story. Also, if she is seriously talking suicidal with seriousness, not just screeching "this is not fair, I am gonna kill myself". I am talking about when she is just "not there" emotionally and is super down and starts in with it would just be easier for everyone if she was dead. That would get me on the phone with crisis team immediately.
Sorry you are having such a hard time of it! been there done that wayyyyy to many times. If you feel for the safety of difficult child, yourself or little ones in the family, that is when I, personally, would call 911! Definetly gets the ball rolling for more intense help from those who should have been listening to us in the first place!!
Hugs to you,
Vickie
