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Can an O.D.D child turn out ok?
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<blockquote data-quote="InsaneCdn" data-source="post: 607658" data-attributes="member: 11791"><p>Oh?</p><p>Guess you've never met my difficult child... </p><p> </p><p>It's better now, and I have a really great husband and we've co-parented through all of this "stuff" together. But... it is SO easy to look at a task through your own experience and skills, and call it easy. At this point, you really have no idea if it's easy or not easy. </p><p></p><p>1) how many choices does he have? If he has a full closet and can pick anything or must pick from "school" items... trying to make that decision might be more than he can handle. Some kids can't handle choosing between TWO items (red shirt or blue shirt)... </p><p></p><p>2) how much info does he have to base his decision on? is someone looking ahead to weather, tomorrow's activities at school, etc.? He might be "frozen" in fear that he'll choose wrong, but can't articulate all the things that can go wrong with such a simple choice.</p><p> </p><p>3) Are there other issues with clothes - such as sensory issues, or motor skills issues - that might be hiding behind this challenge? He might be scared of "pinching" himself with a zipper, or of getting buttons lined up wrong, or of ending up with a scratchy tag.</p><p> </p><p>That's just a few that I can think of off the top of my head. We REALLY had to change our whole understanding of where he was coming from. It's so easy to think that they "can" when in reality they "can't"... or can't do it consistently. It isn't necessarily that he doesn't want to...</p><p> </p><p>Have you ever read The Explosive Child by Ross Greene?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="InsaneCdn, post: 607658, member: 11791"] Oh? Guess you've never met my difficult child... It's better now, and I have a really great husband and we've co-parented through all of this "stuff" together. But... it is SO easy to look at a task through your own experience and skills, and call it easy. At this point, you really have no idea if it's easy or not easy. 1) how many choices does he have? If he has a full closet and can pick anything or must pick from "school" items... trying to make that decision might be more than he can handle. Some kids can't handle choosing between TWO items (red shirt or blue shirt)... 2) how much info does he have to base his decision on? is someone looking ahead to weather, tomorrow's activities at school, etc.? He might be "frozen" in fear that he'll choose wrong, but can't articulate all the things that can go wrong with such a simple choice. 3) Are there other issues with clothes - such as sensory issues, or motor skills issues - that might be hiding behind this challenge? He might be scared of "pinching" himself with a zipper, or of getting buttons lined up wrong, or of ending up with a scratchy tag. That's just a few that I can think of off the top of my head. We REALLY had to change our whole understanding of where he was coming from. It's so easy to think that they "can" when in reality they "can't"... or can't do it consistently. It isn't necessarily that he doesn't want to... Have you ever read The Explosive Child by Ross Greene? [/QUOTE]
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